Had SZRE while on EEG, results normal. need advice PLEASE :(

Tonight I went to see another neurologist for a second opinion.  I explained the symptoms I have been having lately.  I have seen this neuro twice before, but my symptoms have gotten a little worse lately, as I have begun to have hallucinations lately.  Not hallucinations exactly, but very scary feelings that my body is morphing into a different shape-very weird and frightening.  I've also had flashing lights.  (I've been looking into Simple Partial Seizures, which to the best of my knowledge describes my symptoms to a tee)  He suggested I have an EEG right away, because he thought I might be having seizures.  (To this date I have not been diagnosed with seizures.)  I have had 2 eeg's and a 24 hr eeg that were all normal in the past, but in the past I never had a seizure while having the eeg's.

Tonight, after doing the hyperventilating part, I started to have a seizure.  I remained conscious, but could not respond (talk).  My hands were fidgety and my shoulders were jumpy.  My feet were twitchy as well as my legs.  A few times my hands smacked my knees, but it was uncontrollable.  The tech asked me if I could hear her, I shook my head yes.  She asked me if I could talk, but I couldn't.  I think it was about 3-4 minutes before it stopped.  I just felt sleepy afterwards.  She asked me if this is how it usually happened and I said yes.  We did the rest of the test and it went OK.

After the test, the neuro came back into his office and declared that the EEG was normal, that he was taking me off of the Topamax that my other neuro had put me on (for tremors and headache prevention) and that I need to see a psychiatrist because I am having emotional seizures.  "These are not physiological seizures, these are emotional seizures caused by stress", he told me. 

He pretty much refused to answer any more of my questions and told me pretty much that I need to direct any further questions to the psychiatrist he was referring me to.  I asked him if it were true that some seizures do not show up on EEG's and he said no that isn't true.  Now, I could swear that I read that on this board, in several places. 
He also told me that if you don't have a seizure while having the EEG, it will still ALWAYS show seizure activity and I KNOW that I've read on here that that isn't true.

I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO!!!  I AM SO UPSET AND CONFUSED AND HURT!  If there was ever a time for stress, now is it.  And guess what, I am not having a seizure.  So, shouldn't that tell him something???

Could someone PLEASE shed some light on this subject for me.  I just don't know where to turn from here.  I am seeing my old neuro on Wednesday and I don't know what to tell him.  Should I tell him what this guy said.  Do I tell him that I had the EEG and the seizure and it came out normal and that this guy thinks I need a psychiatrist?

P.S.  I am happily married with two children.  Do I have stress in my life?  Sure, just like everyone else...do I have an excess of stress in my life that would cause me to have seizures like this?  I honestly don't think so.  I've read about pseudoseizures and mostly they say people who were abused or have something in their past, I don't have anything like that.  I'm just a normal lady with two small kids that drive her up the wall every now and then just like everyone else.  I just don't get it.  Please help...Theresa