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This is my first time on a message board. I am 23 and live in Wichita, KS. For years, I have blamed epilepsy for all of my shortcomings including dating. Does anyone have any advice? Also, if you live near Wichita, can you meet up to talk about this?

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Hi, Thank you for sharing

Hi, Thank you for sharing your story. Being diagnosed with epilepsy can be upsetting and make you feel isolated and alone. However, it’s important to remember that you are not alone, and we are here to help support you. If you ever need to speak with someone please contact our Epilepsy and Seizures 24/7 Helpline, where trained information specialists are available to answer your questions, offer help, hope, support, guidance, and access to national and local resources.1-800-332-1000, or contactus@efa.org. epilepsy.com/helpline   One of the most important things to help you live with epilepsy is to find a support network. To learn more about your community support resources, visit: https://www.epilepsy.com/learn/challenges-epilepsy/social-concerns Or contact your local Epilepsy Foundation, here: https://www.epilepsy.com/affiliates , for assistance finding local support groups, events and programs in your communityIt is also important to recognize that epilepsy is more than just seizures, overall well-being and emotional health is just as important:  https://www.epilepsy.com/living-epilepsy/healthy-living/emotional-health   The Wellness Institute:  epilepsy.com/wellness ,has many helpful and easy-to-use tips & resources for maintaining a healthy lifestyle and maximizing the quality of life for you & your family.  For practical & effective strategies to enhance your well-being, learn more here:  https://www.epilepsy.com/living-epilepsy/toolbox/wellness-support-toolsA..., you may want to consider participating in treatment, seizure and lifestyle management programs, which can help people with epilepsy learn skills to better manage their epilepsy and its effects on daily life: https://www.epilepsy.com/learn/managing-your-epilepsy/what-managing-epil...

Hey,I'm glad you've reached

Hey,I'm glad you've reached out, it always helps speaking with people who understand what you're experiencing!I have actually covered dating and coping strategies in a recent blog post, here's the link to my website if you wanted to check it out: danibeach0.wix.com/thebeachmentalityIn short, I found that people were overwhelmed by hearing about the condition. But if you open up about it slowly, a partner will begin to learn more about the condition and build an understanding and know better how to support you. It isn't easy when you know that no matter how hard someone tries, they will never fully understand unless they've experienced it themselves. Which is why discussion boards like this are so useful!Feel free to get in touch if this helped at all.Dani

I totally can understand how

I totally can understand how you are feeling when it comes to dating and relationships, i was the same way , i was afraid to be in a relationship because i was afraid they would leave me as soon as they found out that i have epilepsy. so i started dating and just never told any of them and the relationships still didnt workout. Then i met my husband!! i been with him for 7 years, we just got married last year! and at first i didnt tell him, then i did tell him finally and i even said i understand if you want to leave . and he told me why would i leave. He is very good with me and when it come to my condition even though i been seizure free for 3 years , he still very protective ! so dont be afraid, dont blame you condition , there are good people out there and if they truly love you , they will see past it .  i hope you find this helpful, dont give up and give it chance, dont live in fear!

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