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When do I tell someone about my epilepsy?
Sat, 02/09/2019 - 01:03I am very self-conscious when it comes to my epilepsy, because when I was younger kids would call me “seizure boy”. The thing is though I only have seizures 2 to 3 times a year and they’re all in the morning before I can even get out of the house, and they never saw one happen. It just goes to show how cruel teenagers can be. Now that I’m older I don’t talk about it to anyone unless my doctor or my family, and only after I have a seizure is when I talk about my epilepsy. That’s kind of some back ground on why this is difficult for me, and I’m sure other people may feel the same. My situation right now is pretty much this: I haven’t talked to a girl that I actually liked since High school which was 3 years ago and now there is this girl who I like in one of my classes at college and I want to ask her on a date but I feel like I should tell her about my condition first. At the same time I’m afraid she will look at me different or think I’m too much to handle. I’m not trying to present myself as Superman to her, but I don’t want her to think I’m weak and I can’t take care of myself because I have a epilepsy. I know she won’t make fun of me, but I don’t know if she will get scared and start being distant. I don’t know what to do honestly, I don’t want to be lonely anymore. I know my worth and that I’m much more than someone with epilepsy, but sometimes that’s all that people see in me.
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Hey there, you definitely don
Submitted by Believer_59cd4d81a99cf on Wed, 2019-02-13 - 23:12
Hey there, you definitely don't need to stroll in with a "hey there, I have epilepsy." But she shouldn't either feel like she knows you really well, and then you've thrown this big awful secret at her. Get to know her, get to trust her, and as soon as anything gets serious, have a calm conversation where you can explain that this is something that you're always going to have to deal with, but that it doesn't define you or control your whole life. If she likes you by then as a person, and you can remain calm and open with her while discussing it, you'd be surprised how kind people can be as well. Best of luck B
Hi friend, well you seem
Submitted by Islandheart on Thu, 2019-02-21 - 18:02
Hi friend, well you seem like a nice guy, just by reading your story. Well , if this woman is just a classmate and nothing more i think it wll be best, that you let her get to know you first as a person and a friend before devulging that info, of your seizures , just till you get a sense of the type of person she is on a personal level. i only say that because , if you tell her at an early stage, before she got to know you as a person, yes of course it will scare her. Though , When you feel like you got to know her well enough and you feel comfortable to tell her about your seizures then you should let her know. Not all people are judgemental . there are some who are compassionate and understanding about the adversaties and trials and tribulations , of life in all aspects. If you do tell her and she distance herself from you, for that reason then trust me she isn't worth your time of day at all. I hope i helped you in some way. :)
When you should tell somebody
Submitted by msanders21989 on Sun, 2019-02-10 - 17:57
When you should tell somebody and at what point is always differnt in each point. You don’t have to tell a person right away, but if you eventually, you probaly have to tell them, espically if your seziures keep you from driving, or effect other aspects of your life. You probaly don’t need to tell her until you get to know her first. If she really cares about you, by the time you mention eplepsy, it should bother her. At the same time, don’t lie about it or over work trying to avoid talking about it. She will eventually figure out your hiding something. You don’t have to share it with somebody on date number one, but you will need to tell her eventually. Wait too long, and she’ll feel like your a phony for trying to cover it up.