I know this is a delicate subject but I really want to ask this question, get more information and help from this community. Please do not judge harshly my questioning.
I wonder if my friend is faking her epilepsy and it’s been a while now. I’m not even the one who had this thought originally it was my sister. She thought it was weird that whenever my friend needed to be hospitalized she never ever wanted anyone to go with her and she would never show me (her best friend) any test results. She’s been sick ever since I met her (it’s been 15 years now). At first it was a gastric condition and that is still on going but epilepsy has “taken over” it seems.
When it started I never questioned it, I always genuinely believe that she was sick. But after what my sister said I started questioning things. Not directly to her. Just wondering to myself. Although there was one occasion where I (gently) tried confronting her about one thing. I was a flight attendant until recently, and I was taught first aid, that includes what to do when someone has a seizure. One day my friend and I were discussing a seizure she had and she said her husband feared she might swallow her tongue so he reached into her mouth with his fingers. And she said “thank God he did that”. To which I responded, from my first aid knowledge, that you can’t swallow your tongue. She insisted that it was very common during a seizure to swallow your tongue. She insisted that it was her doctor who said that. So that’s the second thing that made me suspicious...
Another event was her being in hospital for a while and this time, she wanted me to visit. Which I did. It’s a hospital known for mental issues so when she said the name of the hospital I thought it was really strange that she would be there. To which she responded that they have a small wing dedicated to neuro. When I get to the hospital, to the neuro wing, they say they don’t know who I’m looking for, she’s not in their database... I call my friend and she admits that she’s in the regular wing, which is psych. She’s on the floor of behavioral issues like suicidal, anorexic.
She admitted lying because she didn’t like the idea of being there and she explained that the reason for her being there for about a month and a half is because her treatment for epilepsy was causing her to be extremely angry and aggressive and having severe mood swings.
Of course this increased my suspicion that maybe it was fake. I can understand being ashamed of having to go to a mental institution but it just seemed strange for someone who has epilepsy. Going to Neuro would make total sense but not psych... I don’t know... During one visit, she also said the doctor was very rude to her in trying to make her have a seizure while doing an EEG, saying mean things to upset her on purpose so she’d have a seizure because he couldn’t believe she had epilepsy until he saw it on the EEG (her words). I responded that she does have other test results from other doctors that she probably brought with her. She was officially diagnosed. Why doesn’t he call the other doctor? She said “I don’t know, but he just won’t believe the other test results and he won’t call the doctor who diagnosed me”... Apparently he’s one of the best doctor in the field (in the country where I am).
One other thing is when she has seizures sometimes she injures herself. It’s been I’d say about 2 years now that she was diagnosed with epilepsy and not once has anyone witnessed her falling AND hurting herself from a fall. I saw her have a seizure once, her husband and daughter have as well, many times of course, and other family members too, but nobody ever saw her fall to the point of injury, so what’s odd is on average she hurts herself a couple times a month (yes I’ve been keeping track) and nobody ever witnessed it. When she’s injured from a seizure she says she fell while walking outside or in her home, alone. The injuries never ever include swelling or bruises, EVER. Sometimes I just bump into something lightly and I get a bruise...
her injuries are always the same and in the exact same location: forehead and chin. And they are scratches. Is it normal to fall on the face and not have a bruise or swelling?
Some people may answer that she doesn’t get injuries when she’s with other people because they prevent her from falling. But that’s not the case. I know her family well and we discussed it. Sometimes they see her fall and they’re too far to catch her.
Now, I must say that I have looked up epilepsy and signs and symptoms and researched about faking it as well, a lot... I never found anything about falling and having big scratches. I didn’t really find anything conclusive or helpful about the faking either but found info on seizures and that there are many different types. Apparently it’s possible to swallow the tongue but rare. The way my friend mentioned it though was like if it ever happened to her it would be absolutely normal... because it happens frequently...
I really don’t know what to think. Today I heard that her neighbor (and friend) was talking in the hallway to another neighbor about “the lying”. They were talking about my friend and saying that she lies about going to the ER for epilepsy. So apparently I’m not the only one with doubts...
I understand that everything I’m describing, or some of it, could be normal... but some of it just doesn’t make sense to me. Or maybe I’m not educated enough on the matter which is why I’m here asking for help to understand all this.
Trust me, I wish this isn’t true but I can’t help but think maybe she is faking it.
In the meantime I’m as supportive as I can be and I’m choosing to believe her. I guess I wanna know if I’m being crazy thinking this and if there really is ground for doubt.
Thank you to everyone who will take the time to read me
And thanks for those who will answer and help