Ten Steps to Self-Confidence

Self-confidence-like being rich - is something we think everyone else is but us. Yet feeling insecure about ourselves is perhaps the most common problems of humanity. The majority of people in society think “You have to be born with it.” This is not true. You can learn how to be confident, just like learning how to cook or drive a car. Secondly, people tend to think once they lose their self-confidence that it's gone for good, not true. It may take time to gain your self-confidence back, but once you overcome your insecurities it's less likely that you'll lose your self-confidence again. Third, People think that you can only have self-confidence when you're able to achieve at something new. There is more to confidence than conquering something new. In order to gain self-confidence you need to believe in yourself. If you believe in yourself then you can succeed in anything you put your mind to. You may not succeed the first time you try, but you have to keep trying till you do succeed. Quick success does not exist in our society. Achievements only come to those who strive hard to get them. You get nowhere in life if you do not push yourself. You need to create a lifestyle that is right for you and nobody else. Don't settle for anyone else's lifestyle or for a lifestyle that's beneath your standards. To make this happen, you must learn to accept who you are, be proud of the person you are. Only then will you feel your self‑esteem rise up to the skies'.! Now onto the 12 steps to self-confidence.1. Start with writing a journal. Ask yourself what is making you feel like you cannot get to the point in life you want to reach. Write any thoughts that come to mine. Also, write down what self-confidence means to you. 2. Remember the past is over; you can only change the future. Write down 10 positive things about yourself. Go through your journal and look at all the positive things about yourself. Concentrate on your strengths. These are the reasons you should love yourself and have high self-esteem and self-confidence in yourself. Give yourself credit for everything positive you have written about yourself. Remember, you're somebody special. 3. Accept yourself and learn to love yourself for whom you are a person. Everyone has their own unique qualities and characteristics. We are all born differently for a reason. Don't compare yourself to others. 4. Understand yourself mentally, physically and spiritually. Take some time to relax by yourself in a quiet room.. Rest on your back with head and neck comfortably supportedRest hands on upper abdomen, close your eyes and settle in a comfortable position. Breathe slowly, deeply and rhythmically. Inhalation should be slow, unforced and unhurried. Silently count to 4, 5 or 6, whatever feels right for you. When inhalation is complete, slowly inhale through the nose. Count this breathing out, as when breathing in. The exhalation should take as long as the inhalation. There should be no sense of strain. If initially you feel you have breathed your fullest at a count of three, that is alright. Try gradually to slow down the rhythm until a slow count of 5 or 6 is possible, with a pause of 2 or 3 between in and out breathing.5. Be ready. Self-confidence comes a lot easier to the person who's sure their ready. 6. Strengthen your inner self. Write down in your journal what you will be able to do once you acquire the confidence you need. 7. Begin changing what you don't like about yourself. Confidence comes from within. You need to concentrate on the positive things about yourself.8. Notice the change in our self-esteem and self-confidence. Reward yourself each time you do something that makes you feel proud...go out some place or take it easy for the day.9. Learn how to give and take. Confidence is being able to find a balance between giving help to people and excepting when we need help.10. Have a tremendous amount of pride in yourself. Remember, you're number one!