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Does anyone else's family ever let them down??

Thu, 11/25/2004 - 19:54

Topic: Family & Friends

Today was a support group barbeque.I was planning to go. My daughter was going to come just so I wouldn't be alone. I have never been and was nervous. She changed her mind. I had a hard time, but was going to go anyway. My husband was going to leave work early to drive me. The time came and went. He didn't show up. An hour after I was ready he calls from the grocery store, asking if I want anything. I swore at him and hung up. As I write this I realize that he lied to me. He bought some stuff and came home. His excuse "I thought you took the bus" Why would he call to ask if I wanted anything if He thought I had already left?? He knew how much this meant to me. I have been talking about it all week. I am hurt and angry. 2 days ago he got up early to take his brother's car to the garage. This is an adult who can drive. For all of the talk of being there my family really doesn't care. Ok, so they have to watch the seizures. They don't understand how horrible you feel after them. Sorry for rambling. Am I wrong to be hurt and upset??

Comments

RE: Does anyone else's family ever let them down??

Submitted by WashkuhnR on Sun, 2004-08-08 - 15:03

My family is real good, but if this was me I'd be on the next bus.

RE: Does anyone else's family ever let them down??

Submitted by ccs123 on Thu, 2004-09-02 - 07:16

Hi. I am so sorry that you endure these things. I feel that in no way you are wrong for being hurt and upset. Sadly, your husband didn't feel it as important as you to attend this barbeque and it's ashame that he's doing driving favors for his brother but not his wife, who has a medical condition that prevents her from driving. My family has been supportive, but I just wanted to respond to you to say that my heart goes out to you and I'll be hoping that some changes take place for you. You deserve better. Take care.

RE: Does anyone else's family ever let them down??

Submitted by fenway on Wed, 2004-09-22 - 05:11

I understnad your situation. It was important event for you and your family let you down. A much as it hurts, I would apologize to your husband for swearing at him and then explain to him that this barbaque was extremely important to you and explain why.

I had brain surgery and attend a surgury support group once a month. They are a major source of support.

You may want to explain that this group and as well as my family are my sources. We all deal with the same disorder...... This was an opportunity for the two sources of support to meet one another. You might want to stress how important it was to you etc.

I think it fantastic that your group had a barbaque. I am going to suggest it to my group.

I hope he is receptive. The key is expressing your disappointment to him so he knows how important it was to you (as it sounds like you have already done).

Good luck

I had brain surgery and attend a surgury support group once a month. They are a major source of support.

I think it fantastic that your group had a barbaque. I am going to suggest it to my group.

I hope he is receptive. The key is expressing your disappointment to him so he knows how important it was to you (as it sounds like you have already done).

Good luck

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