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Does anyone else's family ever let them down??
Thu, 11/25/2004 - 19:54Topic: Family & Friends
Today was a support group barbeque.I was planning to go. My daughter was going to come just so I wouldn't be alone. I have never been and was nervous. She changed her mind. I had a hard time, but was going to go anyway. My husband was going to leave work early to drive me. The time came and went. He didn't show up. An hour after I was ready he calls from the grocery store, asking if I want anything. I swore at him and hung up. As I write this I realize that he lied to me. He bought some stuff and came home. His excuse "I thought you took the bus" Why would he call to ask if I wanted anything if He thought I had already left?? He knew how much this meant to me. I have been talking about it all week. I am hurt and angry. 2 days ago he got up early to take his brother's car to the garage. This is an adult who can drive. For all of the talk of being there my family really doesn't care. Ok, so they have to watch the seizures. They don't understand how horrible you feel after them. Sorry for rambling. Am I wrong to be hurt and upset??
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RE: RE: Does anyone else's family ever let them down??
Submitted by Ihavenoidea on Tue, 2004-09-21 - 08:49
Hiya Nancy, sorry to hear of all your troubles, Ive recently started on medication for the way I am, I have been told that I have epilepsy, just a name for the way some people are, in their way of thinking. I believe that the way some people think about thier lives is the cause of my siezures, when we have things to say in our heads, we should say them and not let them build up, untill eventually it needs a way out, my mind has started to take over my brain and my brain cant cope with it. Its like my brain needs to shut my mind down so it can recover... dont disown yer family, you may just regret it one day, when the time comes for your mind goin on holiday
RE: RE: Does anyone else's family ever let them down??
Submitted by forensicfreak on Tue, 2004-09-28 - 05:55
I feel like i have let my husband down, because he feels i do not fully understand what it feels like to have Epilepsy or a siezure. No i do not know how it feels, but i am there the one that takes care of him and does everything for him. As far as family letting him down. His father is just sitting there waiting to die, and thinks he is defective and will have nothing to do with him. He is hurt by it all, because his other two siblings have died. one by accident, one by suicide, and now he has lost his father too. His mother just plays it off like you know your dad. But he is suffering emotionally because of it.
RE: RE: RE: Does anyone else's family ever let them down??
Submitted by mexican_fire on Sun, 2004-08-08 - 15:41
Go ahead and say what you want about my dad, because it doesn't hurt me any.
Anything you say about him will be the total truth, and I can think of many words for it, but I can't type them on the computer for everyone to see. Sure, he hurt me--physicaly, mentally, emotionally, and verbally.
I suffered alot from what he did, but I was trapped and couldn't do a single thing about it.
But he is a thing of the past. I was finally able to just let it all go a few months ago, after I got the diagnoses that I had Epilepsy for sure. He left reminders that I have to live with for the rest of my life, but they don't make me any less of who I am now, or stall me at what I am doing. All it is, is a broken jaw, that healed wrong, that lead to maloclussion, that led to surgery, that now needs to be replaced, trauma to the head causing epilepsy, other injuries and hurt feelings.
But you have to move on, and as hard as it may have been at the time I did it, I managed.
My brother actually did come up behind my dad one time when he was fixing to hit me with a chair when I was on the floor, and nail him in the back and head multiple times. He lifted weights on purpose so he could protect himself if he had to. It was a SAD situation.
nancy
Go ahead and say what you want about my dad, because it doesn't hurt me any.
Anything you say about him will be the total truth, and I can think of many words for it, but I can't type them on the computer for everyone to see. Sure, he hurt me--physicaly, mentally, emotionally, and verbally.
I suffered alot from what he did, but I was trapped and couldn't do a single thing about it.
But he is a thing of the past. I was finally able to just let it all go a few months ago, after I got the diagnoses that I had Epilepsy for sure. He left reminders that I have to live with for the rest of my life, but they don't make me any less of who I am now, or stall me at what I am doing. All it is, is a broken jaw, that healed wrong, that lead to maloclussion, that led to surgery, that now needs to be replaced, trauma to the head causing epilepsy, other injuries and hurt feelings.
But you have to move on, and as hard as it may have been at the time I did it, I managed.
My brother actually did come up behind my dad one time when he was fixing to hit me with a chair when I was on the floor, and nail him in the back and head multiple times. He lifted weights on purpose so he could protect himself if he had to. It was a SAD situation.
nancy