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Sick of controlling and overprotective parents HELLLLP ME
Fri, 02/04/2011 - 01:32Comments
Re: Sick of controlling and overprotective parents HELLLLP ME
Submitted by bracz084 on Fri, 2011-02-04 - 22:44
I agree with both comments so far. I know at 18 I hated hearing things like this, but in the end, it may be for the best. I'm 27 now, a mother, working two jobs, one is my own business, and happily married. My brother, only a year younger than me, but was given all the freedoms one could want, it living with my parents, working one job as a busser, even though he's a college graduate, and really unable to behave like an adult.
My parents were very strict with me, partly because they thought I was irresponsible. I have Abscence seizures and Partial Complex seizure, so they were often hard to see. It looked like I was ignoring my responsibilties in favor of daydreaming. Your parents recognize that you have seizures, rather than denying it and saying you're crazy. See it as a blessing.
And yes, sit down and calmly speak to your mother about how you feel. Mention that as you are an adult, and would one day like to be an independant adult, what would you have to do to prove to her that some you are capable. I wouldn't fight her on the 10 pm curfew on weeknights though. Hell, at 27, I'm never out that late.
I agree with both comments so far. I know at 18 I hated hearing things like this, but in the end, it may be for the best. I'm 27 now, a mother, working two jobs, one is my own business, and happily married. My brother, only a year younger than me, but was given all the freedoms one could want, it living with my parents, working one job as a busser, even though he's a college graduate, and really unable to behave like an adult.
My parents were very strict with me, partly because they thought I was irresponsible. I have Abscence seizures and Partial Complex seizure, so they were often hard to see. It looked like I was ignoring my responsibilties in favor of daydreaming. Your parents recognize that you have seizures, rather than denying it and saying you're crazy. See it as a blessing.
And yes, sit down and calmly speak to your mother about how you feel. Mention that as you are an adult, and would one day like to be an independant adult, what would you have to do to prove to her that some you are capable. I wouldn't fight her on the 10 pm curfew on weeknights though. Hell, at 27, I'm never out that late.
Re: Sick of controlling and overprotective parents HELLLLP ME
Submitted by snowwoman on Fri, 2011-02-04 - 18:46
I have to say a 10pm curfew on weeknights and midnight curfew on weekends sounds fair. I'm in my mid twenties, living on my own in university and when I went home for the summer, I still made sure I came home by midnight. My parents never said I had to, but I think it's polite, and I know they appreciate it.
Your parents just want you to be safe. Fair enough, you want autonomy as you're 18 (and eventhough you're taking classes at the college level, you're still in high school). But to say they're controlling is not so...nice. My parents gave my brother much more freedom too, but I can see the wisdom in it.
You want more autonomy in your life? Handle it like an adult. Politely request to sit down for a consultation when eveyrbody's in a good mood and listen to your parents' side too. Arguing does not make you look like an adult. SHOW them you're an adult. 'Freedom' has to be earned.
I know you weren't hoping to hear any of this. But at least, you have someone who cares enough to watch your back and be the 'mean person who won't let you have fun'. Talk to them, and come to a compromise. They'll appreciate it. And you will too.
I have to say a 10pm curfew on weeknights and midnight curfew on weekends sounds fair. I'm in my mid twenties, living on my own in university and when I went home for the summer, I still made sure I came home by midnight. My parents never said I had to, but I think it's polite, and I know they appreciate it.
Your parents just want you to be safe. Fair enough, you want autonomy as you're 18 (and eventhough you're taking classes at the college level, you're still in high school). But to say they're controlling is not so...nice. My parents gave my brother much more freedom too, but I can see the wisdom in it.
You want more autonomy in your life? Handle it like an adult. Politely request to sit down for a consultation when eveyrbody's in a good mood and listen to your parents' side too. Arguing does not make you look like an adult. SHOW them you're an adult. 'Freedom' has to be earned.
I know you weren't hoping to hear any of this. But at least, you have someone who cares enough to watch your back and be the 'mean person who won't let you have fun'. Talk to them, and come to a compromise. They'll appreciate it. And you will too.
Re: Sick of controlling and overprotective parents HELLLLP ME
Submitted by Insanelyme08 on Fri, 2011-02-04 - 13:22
Honestly my advice would be 2 things. First of all, give your parents some slack because at least they want to take care of you. My parents thought I was crazy for years and hardly ever call me to see if I'm ok. I've had to face all my seizures alone, so try and appreciate that they care so much.
However, you are 18 and need to make your own rules for your life. You can never learn to take care of yourself if you don't get the freedom to. My advice would be to move out of your city for college. Just make sure before you leave you talk to your doctor about things to watch out for to avoid seizures. Be smart about it. I wish you th
Honestly my advice would be 2 things. First of all, give your parents some slack because at least they want to take care of you. My parents thought I was crazy for years and hardly ever call me to see if I'm ok. I've had to face all my seizures alone, so try and appreciate that they care so much.
However, you are 18 and need to make your own rules for your life. You can never learn to take care of yourself if you don't get the freedom to. My advice would be to move out of your city for college. Just make sure before you leave you talk to your doctor about things to watch out for to avoid seizures. Be smart about it. I wish you th