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Sick of controlling and overprotective parents HELLLLP ME
Fri, 02/04/2011 - 01:32Topic: Living With Epilepsy - Youth
Ok heres the deal, i'm 18 years old, in community college (also a high school senior, in a program that lets you take all your classes at the college level).
Within the last year I've been making new friends and wanting to go out more, used to be the shy type who would stay at home on the weekends.
I also have a boyfriend now of 4 months who I met at school, and we love going out together and staying out late.
I don't drink or do drugs or anything but ever since I had seizure last year my mom is so overprotective and naggy..
When i'm out she constantly texts me, and wants me to be home by 10 on weeknights, EVEN though I don't have school the next day or have night classes so I don't even have to get up early.
And on weekends I have a midnight curfew, IM SICK OF IT. Whenever i argue shes like well u have a history of seizures it drives me crazy.
Shes gives me twin brother way much more freedom, she doesn't even care he smokes pot and drinks, (he doesn't do it excessively just on social occasions every couple weeks, and he gets good grades like me).
Whenever I try to do more she brings up the seizures and stuff and it's seriously making me depressed, I just wanna go out and have fun with my friends and boyfriend, and be at my boyfriends later. I get good grades in school, am gonna major in psychology, and have been applying for jobs like crazy.
My brother is going out of state for college, and i am thinking of doing the same just to get away from them.
any advice or anyone going through th same thing??
Comments
Re: Sick of controlling and overprotective parents HELLLLP ME
Submitted by 3Hours2Live on Sat, 2011-02-05 - 18:07
Hi Bothell123,
When a person has any tendency of the epilepsies, it is even more important to follow the rule to the strickest letter, of not going anywhere near any water, until you have thoroughly developed a complete skill-set of swimming.
The same logic must be followed in order to prevent social dangers with epilepsy, as well developed social skills, and especially the meet-and-deal skills of modern business, should be developed before any attempt what-so-over of any practice.
The narrow limits between "all-or-nothing" rules and consequences must be maintained, and are usually posted, or available in a convenient booklet, or available with open-discussion. I wish I had my pamphlet from a socially responsible "workfare" rooming establishment associated with The People's Temple and the "director" Reverend Jim Jones in the San Francisco Bay Area, as hindsight makes those rules and practices most curious. Much of the logic involved was greatly "flawed". Many of my jobs were in the night, into the morning, so any accepted curfew would have meant earlier near total unemployment.
Tadzio
Re: Sick of controlling and overprotective parents HELLLLP ME
Submitted by bothell123 on Sat, 2011-02-05 - 13:29
and i dont want to go out every night, just on the weekends. the fact is my parents give my brother more freedom because he doesnt have a seizure history, I HAD ONE SEIZURE 4 MONTHS AGO, not like im getting them every day so shes totally overprotective.