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Sick of controlling and overprotective parents HELLLLP ME
Fri, 02/04/2011 - 01:32Comments
Re: Sick of controlling and overprotective parents HELLLLP ME
Submitted by Chrissyml on Sat, 2011-02-05 - 08:23
My daughter is 20 and lives and works in another province. She puts in 12-17 hours a day and works outside. She makes damn good money.
Because she is by herself, she has to buy her own food, make her own meals, do her own cleaning and laundry, take out her own garbage,run her own errands, pay her own bills and budget...you get the idea. Many days after work she is too tired or sore to want to go out.
Her friends who still live at home figure she is "lucky" and if they lived on their own, they'd be out late every night, enjoying themselves.
My daughter is 20 and lives and works in another province. She puts in 12-17 hours a day and works outside. She makes damn good money.
Because she is by herself, she has to buy her own food, make her own meals, do her own cleaning and laundry, take out her own garbage,run her own errands, pay her own bills and budget...you get the idea. Many days after work she is too tired or sore to want to go out.
Her friends who still live at home figure she is "lucky" and if they lived on their own, they'd be out late every night, enjoying themselves.
Re: Sick of controlling and overprotective parents HELLLLP ME
Submitted by ejanesuperdog on Wed, 2011-02-09 - 17:44
I can agree with this post. I advise you to sit down with your parents and have a "business discussion." That's what we call them in my family. My parents were very controlling, so I get that. They chose the college I went to, chose my high school extracurricular activities, and what I majored in in college (they were paying for it, and they only would pay for a certain degree). I really resented it at the time, and years later I see that they were so scared they thought they "had to decide" for me. I wished that I had sat them down and talked about it back then rather than doing what I did which was rebel. I acted out like a child, and they treated me more and more like a child.
Now, I'm not saying that's what you are doing. I guess I'm just advising you against complete rebellion. Complete rebellion made my seizures worse, not better. It also made my parents even more attentive. But if I had sat down with them, we might've been able to make some compromises that would've worked. Same thing could work for you: they could extend your curfews and quit texting you constantly. In return, you promise not to go out drinking (HIGHLY suggest you resist the temptation to drink!!!), you continue to adhere to your doctor's recommendations, and you will keep up the good work in school. And you will communicate to them any change in seizure control.
Give it a try! You might be surprised how effective it could be.
I can agree with this post. I advise you to sit down with your parents and have a "business discussion." That's what we call them in my family. My parents were very controlling, so I get that. They chose the college I went to, chose my high school extracurricular activities, and what I majored in in college (they were paying for it, and they only would pay for a certain degree). I really resented it at the time, and years later I see that they were so scared they thought they "had to decide" for me. I wished that I had sat them down and talked about it back then rather than doing what I did which was rebel. I acted out like a child, and they treated me more and more like a child.
Now, I'm not saying that's what you are doing. I guess I'm just advising you against complete rebellion. Complete rebellion made my seizures worse, not better. It also made my parents even more attentive. But if I had sat down with them, we might've been able to make some compromises that would've worked. Same thing could work for you: they could extend your curfews and quit texting you constantly. In return, you promise not to go out drinking (HIGHLY suggest you resist the temptation to drink!!!), you continue to adhere to your doctor's recommendations, and you will keep up the good work in school. And you will communicate to them any change in seizure control.
Give it a try! You might be surprised how effective it could be.