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How to get my mom to chill
Sat, 08/21/2010 - 01:40Topic: Living With Epilepsy - Youth
Okay so I've been having grand mal seizures for the past 3ish weeks and they've gotten worse in the last week and a half. I've gotten everything done MRIs, I had a three day EEG which was miserable for me because my doctor only let me sleep for about 9ish bours the whole time I was there. I'm 17 years old and I really need to get my mom to chill because her freaking out everytime I have a seizure is not helping. I used to get them all the time when I was younger because I would get super high fevers but lately out of no where I'll just have a seizure...there'll be no real reason why sometimes I know I'm going to have one when I get really cold even though I'm in a comfortable temperature...but I'm not sure what to tell my mom so that she'll chill out. She has gone completely insane, putting a baby monitor in my room, not letting me drive (I uderstand this), emptied the pool, put baby gates at the top and bottom of the stairs she even got me a lower bed and if I turn on my computer the light in my bedroom automatically goes on. She's really taking this too far and she needs to stop worrying. I understand that she cares and doesn't want me to get hurt but this is not helping anyone. I feel like a prisoner in my own house. I need to be a little more independent because if I'm not I don't know what I'm going to do when I go to university. I hate having seizures all the time and I hate the way my mom is acing like a crazy psycho. what can I do to get her to chill out?!?! She's driving me nuts!!!!!
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Re: How to get my mom to chill
Submitted by ms1775 on Mon, 2010-11-22 - 12:48
Hi capn,
To an extent, that's just mums (or 'moms', sorry Brit here) being mums.
I think Dads are even worse...I'm 25 and....he still calls me to make sure that I've taken my medication.
I'm kinda lucky as I've been seizure free for over 12 months now (touch wood), but parents are parents, and they only love you mate. However, the baby gates are a bit over the top, maybe have a frank 1-1? I agree with sportznut,as parents can be a bit stubborn; you could take them to your neurologist, if they're concerned with any issues.
In my experience, as you get better (I have no doubt you will) your parents will start getting more flexible with you and will start to give you more freedoms.
All the best,
MS
Re: How to get my mom to chill
Submitted by sportz_nut on Thu, 2010-09-16 - 18:20
I love your question. I'm 28 and my mom still has a choke hold on me. I've been so protected I'm still trying to grow up and make my own decisions without getting mom's approval. I feel like moving to Neptune still wouldn't be far enough. I can't drive either and I know it bites.
Yes she cares, though I know it's hard to believe some time. Watching you have seizures, past events in general may have caused her to get so protective. I spent time at University of Michigan when I was young so I'm sure that could have contributed to my mom's choke hold.
Make a list of questions for your neurologist, even your family doctor, about the side effects of epilepsy.
If she is concerned about photosensitive seizures "video games, light", make sure you do not have those type, what are possible triggers to your seizures or type you have?. When is it time to get medical attention.
I've always been a teacher pet "fortunately or unfortunately", when I went to college I made my instructors aware of my epilepsy. I stress for you to get to know your instructors, go to their office hours, even if it's not for class help, they can offer insight to your strengths, your interests, their main focus in the subject. Actually many of my friends/associates are faculty/staff that I would be comfortable having a seizure around and can offer help if you get in class trouble, need recommendations, etc.
I love your question. I'm 28 and my mom still has a choke hold on me. I've been so protected I'm still trying to grow up and make my own decisions without getting mom's approval. I feel like moving to Neptune still wouldn't be far enough. I can't drive either and I know it bites.
Yes she cares, though I know it's hard to believe some time. Watching you have seizures, past events in general may have caused her to get so protective. I spent time at University of Michigan when I was young so I'm sure that could have contributed to my mom's choke hold.
Make a list of questions for your neurologist, even your family doctor, about the side effects of epilepsy.
If she is concerned about photosensitive seizures "video games, light", make sure you do not have those type, what are possible triggers to your seizures or type you have?. When is it time to get medical attention.
I've always been a teacher pet "fortunately or unfortunately", when I went to college I made my instructors aware of my epilepsy. I stress for you to get to know your instructors, go to their office hours, even if it's not for class help, they can offer insight to your strengths, your interests, their main focus in the subject. Actually many of my friends/associates are faculty/staff that I would be comfortable having a seizure around and can offer help if you get in class trouble, need recommendations, etc.