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How to get my mom to chill
Sat, 08/21/2010 - 01:40Topic: Living With Epilepsy - Youth
Okay so I've been having grand mal seizures for the past 3ish weeks and they've gotten worse in the last week and a half. I've gotten everything done MRIs, I had a three day EEG which was miserable for me because my doctor only let me sleep for about 9ish bours the whole time I was there. I'm 17 years old and I really need to get my mom to chill because her freaking out everytime I have a seizure is not helping. I used to get them all the time when I was younger because I would get super high fevers but lately out of no where I'll just have a seizure...there'll be no real reason why sometimes I know I'm going to have one when I get really cold even though I'm in a comfortable temperature...but I'm not sure what to tell my mom so that she'll chill out. She has gone completely insane, putting a baby monitor in my room, not letting me drive (I uderstand this), emptied the pool, put baby gates at the top and bottom of the stairs she even got me a lower bed and if I turn on my computer the light in my bedroom automatically goes on. She's really taking this too far and she needs to stop worrying. I understand that she cares and doesn't want me to get hurt but this is not helping anyone. I feel like a prisoner in my own house. I need to be a little more independent because if I'm not I don't know what I'm going to do when I go to university. I hate having seizures all the time and I hate the way my mom is acing like a crazy psycho. what can I do to get her to chill out?!?! She's driving me nuts!!!!!
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Re: How to get my mom to chill
Submitted by sharon516 on Sat, 2010-08-21 - 18:44
I can relate with you, for I am 54 yrs old and have a mother that is 76 and still worries about me and continues to call me and worries. I get mad that she cares so much, but as a mother myself can relate to her worrying. I am more mad just because I have epilepsy and its not controlled. I think that is where my main issue is. I'm sure you feel the same, when you loose your freedom it is not fair. That is where I find I need to look at my life in a more positive way. I think and believe what BarbG has to say to you is the best way to approach this issue. I am impressed with you for having the courage to talk about this and search for support. For I never had the courage when I was your age. Give yourself a big hug and kiss for loving yourself and obviously knowing yourself. Keep up taking care of yourself. Your a smart young lady.
Re: How to get my mom to chill
Submitted by Lost_Girl15 on Tue, 2010-09-14 - 15:23
I would sit down and talk to her, my mum gets quite stressy but i told her that i need to be able to see her as a figure of safety, hope and someone stable who i can talk to...it worked and she doesnt stress out around be too much and is easy to be around, we have been really close for ages so it was calming and soothing....
so thats all you need to, just talk to her.
Good Luck!
Emi
Re: How to get my mom to chill
Submitted by BarbG on Sat, 2010-08-21 - 15:41
I completely agree with small sock. It is much healthier to focus on the things you can do and your neurologist should definitely be able to work with you and your family to help define that. As you (hopefully) are able to get more control over the seizures, the can do list can and should increase and you may be able to figure out different ways to do things that you thought were closed to you.
Good luck!
BarbG
I completely agree with small sock. It is much healthier to focus on the things you can do and your neurologist should definitely be able to work with you and your family to help define that. As you (hopefully) are able to get more control over the seizures, the can do list can and should increase and you may be able to figure out different ways to do things that you thought were closed to you.
Good luck!
BarbG