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Is that "PERFECT SOMEONE" out of the question??!
Tue, 06/26/2007 - 11:59Is dating that "perfect someone" hard for you because you have Epilepsy and they don't. Have you ever been in these shoes? What have you done? Do you keep it a secret til they find out from the "Grapevine" or do you come out and tell them?
As for me I come right out and tell them. I wait for the right time but I do tell them. Sometimes the right time for me was when he came crossed my "MIAB(medical identification alert bracelet)" or if he asked me a question that is this type.... Is there any "secret" I need to know about you? Or a similar question. Up until last year (17 yrs old) It was the hardest subject for me to talk about. Now since doing a FFCLA project on Epilepsy Awareness I feel much better and can/will talk about it.
What are some other ways you deal with "hiding" or having an "Open discussion" about epilepsy with your date? How do you cope with taking you meds in front of them or do you wait til they leave? Finally what are some "Activities" you are limited from because of Epilepsy?
Don't get down on yourself because you have Epilepsy. Look at the things it kind of "Shelters" you from trying or doing. I have lived with it since I was a 19 month old baby. I'm now 18 and I tell myself everyday that "I'm SPECIAL in my own eyes and ways!" As you can see I don't let this limit me at all.
Thanks for answering my questions and taking time to look this over. Please email me if you have any personal questions at autumnrexcell_epilepticlife@yahoo.com it will be alot easier to answer questions there then here.
Take care and remember "Normal is just a setting on the washer machine...............and EPILEPTICS are any thing but normal."
Autumn
Comments
Re: Re: Is that "PERFECT SOMEONE" out of the question??!
Submitted by autumn18 on Fri, 2007-06-29 - 00:26
I didn't mean this to be all about me. I put it out there to help people who have trouble with dates because they are epileptic. I did help out someone once though. So maybe you took it the wrong way... but you helped me in a totally different perspective.
I hope I helped you out some how!!
If you have any personal questions then e-mail me at autumnrexcell_epilepticlife@yahoo.com
Just Remember that "Normal is just a setting on the washing machine, and people that have Epilepsy are far from normal!!!!!" ;
Re: Is that "PERFECT SOMEONE" out of the question??!
Submitted by cocoloco on Thu, 2007-06-28 - 10:01
I am in a wonderful relationship. I didnt know i had it when we first started dating and now i've been carted off in an ambulance several times (the first one he called himself and came with me) and he doesnt seem to mind. he comes to collect me from the hospital when that happens.
theres plenty of time
Re: Is that "PERFECT SOMEONE" out of the question??!
Submitted by GodivaGirl on Thu, 2007-06-28 - 09:36
OK, this may sound like the wrong way to start this, but you're young! You're 18 & looking for the perfect relationship when you should be looking for the perfect education & the perfect job first. Of a close circle of girl friends in the same town as me I'm the only one epileptic. Thing is we all look at things the same way as far as when we ended up in serious relationships. We were all done university (age 22-24) One of my best friends (she's married, I'm common-law & I had the same view on that. We were both at a stage in life where we were totally confident we could take care of ourselves & it didn't matter if we met anyone else or not. That's when the guys we're with stepped into our lives. We were both right around 26. She's married to the person she met. I'm still common-law, but I've been with the same guy for 5+ years. Did I tell him I'm epileptic - yup. Told him day 1. He's been cool with that since day 1. Thing is, I think things just clicked with he & I because I was at a stage in life where really it didn't matter, relationship, no relationship. I didn't go out of my way to find one - it just sorta happened & once I was completely honest, I was like this is me, take it or leave it & I really didn't care initially. He was the same way, and 5 yrs later, we're still together. It's not about Mr.Perfect, it's about making sure you're okay with or without someone and that you have enough confidence in you so that when you click with someone, you're okay if you have to walk away. Make sense?