Is it Meds? or Is it my child?

best of luck ;) sorry I pressed post on accident.....just remember it could always be worse oh and being outside motivated me. meg

You are looking for how to motivate your daughter. First off consider this - she's on some pretty powerful drugs (yes, you might as well consider the AED's drugs, not medications) at age 9 Lamictal will knock the hell out of you. I know I hated the side effects when I was 22, and wasn't on it long. In fact if you look at "www.epilepsyontario.org" then their medications section, you'll find Lamictal not recommended for kids under 16, so no wonder why a 9 year old feels sluggish. Now, moving on. It seems like you've built up expectations that your daugther is "very slow at everything she does, even walking"...she always has been. What you need to do is be supportive of her, and tell her that no matter what you love her. Ask her what she's passionate about and wants to do - is it drama, writing, soccer, what? Find something she's into? There's gotta be one thing she loves. Then, be supportive of it. Even perhaps do mother and daughter shopping days, take her out. Make her feel a bit special. Odds are school is tough if she's having seizures there - friends make fun of her, she gets picked on, and she feels rough. Don't treat her like a spoiled brat, but in the same sense encourage her to live life to the fullest, and show her you care. If she's slow even at walking - create mother/daughter time where the 2 of you go for a walk at night, then you help her with her home work. It's amazing how much a parent's input can help. I'm 32 and while I'm close to being married, I still have lunch with my grandmother once in awhile because I know what that means to her, and my mom and I do "mom and me dinners" when my dad's out of town on business (they live the next city over). We go out for supper, go shopping and just have fun. Whether I was epileptic or not, I'd still make a point of doing that, and it would still mean something to both of us. Motivate her by making her feel special and telling her you care as long as she tries. She'll get through school some how. I have epilepsy and had a visual/spacial perception disorder as a kid (words were scrambled on a page)...now I have a university degree in sociology/criminology and I work in Information Technology. So, my biggest suggestion - don't give up on your daughter so quick. Be there for her, help her through the tough times, and just tell her, once you get past the "chick" and "click" bs in high school - all that matters is getting a great post secondary education and a kick ass job. The ditsy blondes that tease the hell out of you in school..well, usually by that time, they don't matter - by the time you're done high school, they're a write-off. So, just hang tough, hang in there, take the high road & get through. Your job. Help your daughter get through. Good Luck EC / Godiva.