NOT DRIVING CAUSE OF SEIZURES

I know the feeling...when I was in college and started my "real dating" is when my seizures came back. Since 1995 I've had 4 car accidents, one rather severe. When I started dating my now husband I told him right off the bat, still kind of wonder why he ended up marrying me. I told him that I took meds for seizures. That because of this and at times not control of them I really didn't plan to have children of my own. At the time however I was driving. Now after being married for 6 years, I've gone the last 4 without being able to drive. Unless you really have to, I don't know that your health situation is their business. If your seizures aren't under control, I'd tell them just to not freak them out incase you have one in front of them. When you do tell them, I'd tell them try to do it with other friends around. Key is friends, not strangers or a public place. Give her the opportunity to talk to people that know you on a personal level if she has concerns let them talk to her and explain that hey you are a normal guy. Also remind her that yeah you might have one somewhere, if they are not controlled. This might draw unneeded attention for a few minutes but you can tell people when it's done that you are fine and don't need assistance. Until the relationship has progressed, you don't need to tell her why you don't drive unless you have an episode infront of her.

Hi, I hate to tell you this, but driving has nothing to do with if you have a girl or not. I hadn't been diagnosed with seizures till I was 30 years old, and at the time I was diagnosed I was about to deliver my 3 child. They started my medication for my seizures 2 wks later. I was separated from my husband at the time. Like a dummy I went back to him in Ft. Worth Texas for 5yrs. I then divorced and brought my 3 children, ages 5, 7 & 15yrs from Texas to Maine for a 3day trip on a grey hound being epileptic. I now am a single mom of 3 and living on my own renting and not driving. A year later, I bought an acre & a half of land and put a double-wide modular home on it. Lived there with my children and making house payments (still not driving) for 3 years. I then in October 1999 met a man on a phone dating service, we talked for a little while before we met for our first date. We went on our first date Oct 16/99, we knew that day we would be married. We got engaged Jan 7,00, and we married March 18,00. All took place in 5months. Will be 7yrs in March. I haven't been driving any of that married time except for the past 8months. I got my license back in April this year. I am now working a full time job in a Medical Research Laboratory as a Medical Lab Technician. Sorry that was so long, but my point as many have said, you have to be happy with yourself and take like as it comes. Don't dwell on what you don't have or what you can't do, look for a vision and aim towards it. I could still be sitting in an over stuffed chair watching t.v. while my kids are up and going to business school, going to college for Criminal Justice, and working in one of the biggest Air-Ports in Maine if I didn't have a focus on what I could do if I let myself. I learnt to live with this " I may have epilepsy, BUT epilepsy doesn't have me!!!!!!!!!!!!! " Oh and by the way, when I met my husband he knew immediately that I was an epileptic and I had my first one that he ever witnessed in our church on a Sunday morning while sitting in the seats. I grabbed a hold of his leg and starting rubbing and he hadn't seen it happen before but he stayed calm and told all my friends and all his new friends that he loved me and that he was in for the long haul, that he wasn't going anywhere. When you meet someone like that then you will know that she is the one. Good Luck, Cathy