Epilepsy, dating, and thoughts of having children

Hi everyone, I'm a 38 yo single female epilepsy patient in Oregon. Aside from the fact that I've suffered from epilepsy for about 18 years, I lead a relatively normal life. I'm in veterinary school, suffer simple partial (continua?) psychic seizures that cause cognitive deficits, and also suffer from the typical psychosocial issues many patients with epilepsy have problems with. I've always wanted to have marriage and family if I met the right guy. As time has passed, I've matured, gotten better at relationships, learned a ton about epilepsy and how it affects me, and watched my symptoms become gradually worse and more persistent, albeit milder than many people. I worry about successfully practicing medicine, a bright future assuming I maintain the cognitive function I need to do so. I've watched my cognitive problems become worse, as I said. Still, I'm highly functional, and no one else can tell that I have a "buzz" or feel a little confused a lot of the time. I'm completely able to understand concepts and problem solve, but I'm a little slow on the uptake. I'm somehow, miraculously, able to "work through it" almost all of the time, and school has only set me back a couple times due to my epilepsy when the stress and sleep deprivation caught up with my brain, so to speak, during test taking times. I've started thinking about dating again. I had a breakup about 2 years ago. He wasn't supportive of my career, and had a negative attitude about epilepsy and having kids, which I'd never considered before. My mother is also epileptic, has always been well controlled, and she hasn't had the problems I have had with refractory simple partials. I've always dreamt of having a family, and I worry that men I date will have the same attitude. There's also increasing evidence that offspring of women with epilepsy have a much greater risk of cognitive impairment, which causes me to questions the ethics of my having my own children, knowing what I do about my own condition and the risks to a child, even if the pregnancy and birth go fine. This whole issue hugely impacts my "dating strategy". I've always made it clear that I'd like to meet someone who'd like to have a family, and now...??? Anyway, I wonder if there are others out there who struggle with some of these issues. How have you coped? What are your opinions about what I've written? Thanks for reading my vent..I hope this is a good place for it! Best, Lil