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Do you feel this way?
Tue, 09/28/2010 - 07:00Comments
Re: Do you feel this way?
Submitted by jimn on Tue, 2010-09-28 - 15:21
Yes it may be harsh, but I have lived with the disease for 66 years now. I lost jobs, and almost my house, but never looked at Epilepsy as a reason for what was going on. God gave me a challange to deal with for the majority of my life. Without this illness, I wonder if I could have been as sucessful as I became. The reason that I communicate through this website, is so I can help people see the positives that they have, and excel on those topics.
My philosphy is PMA = Positive Mental Attitude. My hope was that they would be hit in the face by my comment and maybe realize that a change in attitude might be forthcoming.
Yes it may be harsh, but I have lived with the disease for 66 years now. I lost jobs, and almost my house, but never looked at Epilepsy as a reason for what was going on. God gave me a challange to deal with for the majority of my life. Without this illness, I wonder if I could have been as sucessful as I became. The reason that I communicate through this website, is so I can help people see the positives that they have, and excel on those topics.
My philosphy is PMA = Positive Mental Attitude. My hope was that they would be hit in the face by my comment and maybe realize that a change in attitude might be forthcoming.
Re: Do you feel this way?
Submitted by Masterjen on Tue, 2010-09-28 - 14:48
"From whaqt I have just read, there is a reason why your children are not offering to assist you. Either they are terribly spoiled and selfish, or there is a great lack of love in the family. This is not an issue that you can say is "Epilepsy's" fault." Harsh way to put it to somebody who is reaching out to us for help . . . But, there is truth in what you say, Jimn. Most issues like Kathy describes are 50-50 fault. In my case I hate feeling I HAVE to ask for help. My seizures started 4 months ago, and I am really wrestling with the sudden change in my overall abilities and lack of independence in doing many activities. While my brother and his wife live close by, and have mentioned willingness to help if I let them know what I need, i've been negligent in following through. Self-respect and good old fashioned ego play a big role for me in this respect. If a family does not habitually help each other out on a regular basis because each family member has been raised to be very independent and self-sufficient (as in my case), it is hard to suddenly take on an "assistant" or "care-giver" type of role, and as well it is difficult to suddenly become the one that needs the assistance and care-giving. It doesn't necessarily mean out-right selfishness or lack of love; t may simply be that the family needs to learn how to take on the new roles thrust upon them.