Consent

Hello, I am new to this forum and haven't posted before. But I am in desperate need of help from people who understand. This is a very personal and delicate subject involving sex, so if you are not comfortable with that, please scroll on by. I have a postictal period of about 30 to 45 minutes where I am oriented to person, but not time or place. I also don't remember what happens during most of this period. During one of these periods, my boyfriend of 5 years was with me. After I was fully aware, he told me that I had initiated oral sex with him. I didn't remember it and was uncomfortable with it, so he promised not to do it again. But then it did happen again, and again he told me I initiated it. This time I was much more upset. I told him I felt violated and I made sure he he understood how significant this was to me emotionally. He swore it would never happen again. I've known him for 20 years and had never had reason not to trust him or be fearful of him so I believed him. Then it happened for a third time. I was shattered by this and broke up with him, because I knew I would never be able trust him again. My question for this group is whether that was considered consensual sex because I initiated it with my boyfriend and it was not forced, even if it happened during a time that I was not fully oriented and have no memory of it. I've searched the internet and have found no information about legal consent during a postictal state. I know it was morally wrong on his part and a betrayal of my trust. But does anyone know if it was legally wrong? I don't want to press charges, I'm really just trying hard to work through this experience.