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My Fiance and I want to have a family one day. I want a baby so bad but I'm so afraid . I have epilepsy and I'm afraid of having miscarriage or complications or my baby having birth defects or just something happening. I would consider surrogating or adopting but it so expensive . I don't think I could ever save the money to do that. but I'm just so afraid to carry the child myself. anyone can give some advice it would be great !

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Hi marisam145, Thanks so much

Hi marisam145, Thanks so much for posting. We understand this can feel very overwhelming and it's important that you express your concerns and fears to your healthcare team.Please visit,  https://www.epilepsy.com/living-epilepsy/women  &   https://www.epilepsy.com/article/2014/10/epilepsy-and-pregnancy-frequent...      for additional information and questions to review with your doctor.   Learn more about epilepsy and pregnancy here,  https://www.epilepsy.com/living-epilepsy/women/epilepsy-and-pregnancy  &   https://www.epilepsy.com/living-epilepsy/women/epilepsy-and-pregnancy/pr... emotional health and over all well-being is an important part of managing your epilepsy, https://www.epilepsy.com/learn/managing-your-epilepsy/managing-my-seizur... Wellness Institute,  epilepsy.com/wellness  ,has many helpful and easy-to-use tips & resources for maintaining a healthy lifestyle and maximizing the quality of life for you & your family. Learn more here, https://www.epilepsy.com/living-epilepsy/toolbox/wellness-support-tools , for practical & effective strategies to enhance your well-being and overall quality of life.It may be helpful to connect with other people who live with epilepsy, to ask questions, share experiences, find & give support to each other, by contacting your local Epilepsy Foundation at, epilepsy.com/localsupport  ,to find support groups, events, and programs in your community. Additionally, our Epilepsy and Seizures 24/7 Helpline: 1-800-332-1000, contactus@efa.org , can assist in connecting you to resources, provide referrals and additional support. https://www.epilepsy.com/sites/core/files/atoms/files/pg1L_HowWeCanHelp_... 

Adopt. It's dangerous for the

Adopt. It's dangerous for the health of you and the potential child. It's selfish to put yourself and the baby at risk when there are homeless children right now. Sometimes adopting is free, sometimes it's expensive yes. But taking care of a child is also expensive. If you can't afford adoption fees, perhaps now is not the best time to consider having a child.

Hi MarisamWhile adoption may

Hi MarisamWhile adoption may be a great solution for some women, pregnancy is NOT contraindicated for women with epilepsy.  Most women with epilepsy do not have problems during pregnancy and the risk of birth defects for most seizure medicines is low. thinking in advance like this is helpful so you have time to see an epilepsy specialist and learn what risks may pertain to you, and what doesn't. Also an epilepsy specialist can follow you during pregnancy and make sure you are on the best medication for you before pregnancy to lessen any risks. 

Thank you so much for that

Thank you so much for that advice :) 

Adopting is a great option

Adopting is a great option and hopefully getting pregnant is not risky.My sister and I both have epilepsy and she has two daughters, but I advise you to consult your neurologist regarding your meds side effects. I wish you all the best  

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