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Epilepsy and Marriage

Sat, 10/06/2018 - 12:06
Hello Everyone, I am Divyesh Jain. I live in India. I am having epilepsy since the age of 12. At present, my age is 34. I need guidance on how should I go about marriage. I don't get any major seizures and it's well controlled with medicines. But medicines I have to take daily. Now how to make people understand about this as they feel my problem is big and will be passed on to my future generation. My marriage has got stuck because of this and I don't know how to tell people about my problem. I am completely a normal person like any other person apart from taking medicines. The moment I talk about the problem they take it in a negative way. It would be very helpful if anyone of you can suggest me ways how to deal with this situation. Thanks, Divyesh Jain

Comments

Have you asked them why they

Submitted by just_joe on Sun, 2018-10-07 - 14:45
Have you asked them why they have a problem accepting you as a person that has a medical disease? Do they accept people with heart diseases? What about people with diabetes? Epilepsy can be passed to your children just as heart disease and diabetes. All of those conditions are treated or controlled with medications. Heart diseases are controlled with medications that control the number of beats your heart makes in a certain period of time. I have atrial fibrillation which is also called A-fib along with that I have intermittent A-flutter. so I have to take medications to control it. The same medications treat a person low or high blood pressure. Both epilepsy and heart issues like mine are caused by electrical impulses hitting wrong. One is in the heart. The other is in your brain. Medications for seizure control or epilepsy stop the electrical impulses from hitting in your brain. The wrong hits cause a chain reaction which is the seizure itself. You are no different then your neighbor. Let them know that there are many famous people in this world that have or had epilepsy.https://www.bing.com/search?q=famous%20people%20who%20have%20or%20had%20epilepsy&qs=ds&form=QBREhttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_people_with_epilepsy

Sadly there are many people

Submitted by wmi3@aol.com on Mon, 2018-10-08 - 07:09
Sadly there are many people in most countries who see epileptics  as some kind of weird people  and to be avoided at all costs Divyesh and nothing you say will convince them otherwise.People with that attitude are just ignorant and heartless in my opiniion .I have come across the same kind of people but happily far more who understand and and totally at ease with epileptics.As for marriage well i dont understand what you mean on that .Are you married or just worried no one would want to marry you because of your epilepsy?

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