Daughter wants to drive before 3 month seizure free period

So mom, is it safe to assume your daughter has been more than likely recently diagnosed with Epilepsy? Maybe a few months ago; maybe just a year ago?If that's the case it has to be a bit of a challenge for her, especially at age 21, to feel she is somewhat restricted. That said, I am on your side in that she should wait on that 3-month time span outlined in your state before she drives. After all, it's the law and with that law also comes personal responsibilities; just as doctors have designated responsibilities when dealing with patients. Remind her that some states have a one-year seizure free timeline as a green light to driving. So a 3-month wait can't be that much of a challenge.I guess the point I am try to make is that your daughter, while understandably frustrated, still needs to come to terms with the fact that laws apply to all of us.That said, the law doesn't mean she is defined by Epilepsy. It just applies to things like "driving", just as there are driving laws in terms of alcohol levels etc. that apply to everybody; Epilepsy or no Epilepsy.Remind her that she isn't being singled out as she may seemingly feel, and that, like many of us with Epilepsy, we still take on other everyday things. It just so happens that "driving" has unique terms and conditions, even outside of Epilepsy.It would be nice if she has the driving conversation with her neurologist. That way it doesn't come across as if it's just mom and dad who are being extremely difficult. :) Best Regards

I just had this come up myself, only I'm 43 years old and have had years to acclimate myself to my personal triggers as an epileptic. I'm lucky that my epilepsy is considered 'mild'. It really depends on how long she's been aware of her epilepsy, what she has learned her triggers are, and how well she maintains herself to avoid those triggers. My boss tried to stop me from leaving work, because I was having issues. He felt it was unsafe for me to drive. However, I know that I get a headache, my shoulders and neck start to feel tight. If I don't stop, relax, take meds, and sleep - it becomes more prevalent. I get facial tics and the back of my head goes numb. After that, disorientation sets in, and I know a seizure is imminent.. I know when I can drive, and when I can't. I would trust her and allow it, but only if she's aware of such things. I've lived with this my entire life - I know when not to push myself. It's how well she deals. If she hasn't learned her own limits, then don't allow it. If she has, then, mama - let her. She needs to understand her limits.. 

My son is 23.  Hasn’t driven in 5 years.  He doesn’t even ask.  Thankfully between his dad and I we can get him back and forth to work.  He has a great group of friends that will pick him up for social stuff.  He is currently 1 year seizure free and Our next nuero appt is in December.  I have a feeling that he will let him drive again.  However I’m a nervous wreck.  It’s been so long will probably have to sign up for driving lessons again and we may just let him drive back and forth to work for a few months and not let him take any passengers.  We are also thinking about getting a new car with the automatic braking capability.