I am new to support groups in general; this one, in particular. My post concerns my sister who expereinced a horrific accident 35 years ago and began having mild seizures afterward. She was very successful in her field. The seizures were mild and infrequent. She had the ability to tell when a seizure was imminent, would excuse herself to the ladies room (if at work) and get through them within 2-5 minutes. This consisted of sitting, or standing, and focusing on her hand making a fist, and releasing the fist, over and over until the seizure passed. They were little more than annoyances until she had one while driving. Her license was suspended, only to be reinstated if she could remain seizure free for 6 months. She was unable to accomplish this, and made it her mission to study, research and speak with her doctors regarding surgery to stop the seizures. Clear on all the pros and cons and VERY adament, she went forward with surgery and came out on the poorer end. Over the past 10 years she's gradually become someone her family no longer recognizes, her husband doesn't know how to deal with, and a woman who's argumentative and suffers from SEVERE short term memory loss. I'm sure you're aware there is no medication or cure in sight regarding her memory loss. So, my question is: anyone have a similar experience? and how do you cope? Any suggestions as to how we might cope better? Sadly, I avoid her more than I should, because the visits or telephone conversations are extremely frustrating. She can't recall that we just visited yesterday, or that we had a telephone conversation this morning. And gets very belligerent if we mention that she's incorrect. Anything we can do that might help her situation and, if not, ours? I appreciate any thoughts you may have. Thank you.