ADHD Medication & Epilepsy - Your Experience

I’m thinking about going on ADHD medication for the first time as part of my treatment plan, but some doctors are reluctant to try it with me because I have active multi focal epilepsy while on two AEDs even though it’s been nearly twenty years since I’ve had generalized (tonic clonic) seizures. I’ve only had three generalized seizures in my whole life and they were considered eclamptic seizures that were part of another rare and severe acquired brain injury that caused my epilepsy and cognitive impairment. So, I’ve read a ton of stuff online that says that the risk of seizures is actually low with ADHD medications (stimulants) and that AEDs can compensate for the risks, but my epilepsy specialist seems to think otherwise and so do many psychiatrists that would be able to prescribe the medication. I’ve found a doctor who isn’t going to rule it out and is considering doing it on a trial basis for me, but he doesn’t take my insurance, so the VA pharmacy won’t fill the prescription and I’ll be stuck paying cash at another pharmacy and I also want to be sure that I have my epilepsy specialist on board with the trial. (He said he would work collaboratively with another doctor on it, but he would prefer not to do it “right now”. I don’t know what he meant by that when I saw him in January - maybe because he was adding a new medication.) What has your experience been with ADHD medication? Under what conditions (e.g. seizure control) did your doctor prescribe it to you?