Hello mblack, I had a Right Temporal Lobectomy and am still on AED's.   Both of which have greatly effected my sex drive.... it went from ok when I was still seizing, before my surgery to absolutely nothing at all since my surgery..... I am still on meds, However if I miss a dose I do knotice that I get arroused. So I know that at least in part its the meds..... As far as being effectionate... I never have been either, however I am now trying to learn how to do that.    On verge of a divorce because of all of the years of her dealing with my E and lack of being affectionate.....   Trying to fix my life before it totally collapses.   Anti-depressants and counceling have begun to help.... they might be an option in your boyfriends case as well..   

Good luck...... and just know... It's not you, its the E and medicine that hes on...      Ranger.

  I have taken Lamictal.  There are a lot of possibilities. I take high doses of one medication and take 2 other medications and my medications do sedate in one manner or another.  I find I walk for  a period of time - I am less sedated. Have him not take a shower! Just have some fun! Each person is different and have their limitations.   My husband takes different medications for his situation and we work together to deal with our intimacy. My friend would say "Life is a Festival!  It is a challenge. Talk to the Neurologist. The Neurologist may have suggestions.   We have known each other for 20 years .   He works in a stressful job and works long hours at different parts of the year.  We are both grateful to enjoy ourselves in communicating and being married for  18  years! 

Good morning. 

I am a 33 year old woman and I am soo in love with my husband, but when it comes to intimacy I'm just not interested at all.  I would rather wash dishes than be intimate. 

I take a high dosage of two AEDs 2x day and I have no doubt this is the reason for the low sex drive. 

Everyone is built different, but unfortunately I do not see my situation changing anytime soon. 

Best of luck to the both of you!!

Hi. Epilepsy is probably not the issue here. It doesn't really have a psychological profile that goes along with it. Maybe he is depressed b.c or not b.c. of it, because that can make people not want to have sex. Or he just could have issues with it in general, which kind of seems more likely. It seems like it's really affecting things, so you might want to look into talking to a therapist about it. He could talk to one, or you could go to one together.