Oh my goodness I pray that you read this kay69 because oh you so sound like myself it is not funny!!!! I began having seizures at 12 years of age when my period first started and I am now 39 years of age just as you are. I have my  Grand Mal seizures around my period and around my Ovulation time. Like you said getting the timing right somtimes does not work.I have had 33 Grand Mals in the past 2 years starting in Feb of 2007 until present. During the past 2 years I have had alot of firsts. I had 2 seizures that I did not get an aura before which has never happened until then and I have also had 2 in 1 day in July 2007 and that was a first as well. I am having the same issue as you with the weight gain thing. I went from a size 8 jeans to a 16 now and most of it is from my breasts to my thighs. Alot of people and Doctors think we are nuts if we try to relate Epilepsy to hormones but I am not crazy I wrote to John Hopkins where they are doing research on just that Epilepsy and hormones and they have put a name to it Catamenial Epilepsy. They are wonderful people to communicate with, they even called me and talked to me on the phone. After my 7th seizure at work they booted me out and said it wasn't safe for me there. I am trying for SSI Disability because with all of them I am having no where is safe for me I even have my house pretty much completly baby proofed and it is not 100% safe. Just like Jett Travolta (God Bless his parents) anything can happen whenever it wants to and we have no control over it. Please if you read this stay in contact with me I am a fellow Epileptic that is 39 single mother of 2 teenagers,unemployed and I live in Ohio. God Bless.