Well, I'll go out on a limb and say what is totally out of vogue right now, but I would strongly suggest weening off of it slowly, under a doctor's supervision. Before everybody faults my comment, let me tell you my sister is bipolar and I have suffered from anxiety in the past (I also have epilepsy). Both my sister and I were on meds while pregnant (she was not on meds during her first trimester). All our children turned out pretty well, but here daughter was slower to talk then all her cousins, and my boys have had some attention/hyperactivity problems, although they are all quite bright. But the thing is, anything that comes up, you may question if your decision to stay on the meds caused this. I can really spin out on this, and so can my sister, even though what we've encountered pales in comparison to others. Yes, Lamictol is one of the safer drugs, but it is also one of the newest drugs. The longterm effects on behavior and cognition are just beginning to be studied. Also, FYI, the physical birth defects are most likely during the first trimester of pregnancy, but brain development is most affected during the last trimester. If you're unstable now, how will you be if you have a child with learning disablities? Let me jjust say it's emotionally draining.  I say, if you can possibly go off it for 9 months, do it. Also, you should get several other medical opinions on this. The more research now, the better. And one more thing, if you have the time, you might want to be married for a couple years first, before having a baby. Yes, babies are devine, but they also put alot of mental stress on even the most hardy of us. You might want to enjoy these early days of marriage.

Cobalt,

The best thing is to talk with your doctor, talk about how you feel, what it is you are afraid of, whether it's the meds and being pregnant or being bipolar and pregnant.  Going off your meds is something you should only do with your doctor's support and care..for any condition.

We have members here who are bipolar as well as epileptic and have children, so you are more than welcome here to seek opinions and support.  Just remember that all we can do is offer opinions and support...that nothing we can tell you is better than having your doctor involved, other than the fact that you get first hand experiences and support....which you will find loads of here...up to and including site suggestions that may steer you towards the answers you seek.

Congratulations on your engagement and best wishes for your marriage, I hope everything works out for you and you find the answers and support you need whether it be here or somewhere else. 

Kathy 

Are you worried about the meds? OR being bipolar?

About the meds, I am on Lamictal and am currently 24 weeks pregnant. Just went to the doctor and everything is fine with me & baby. For women with E, neuros recommend staying on the meds. It may be best for you too. Lamictal is one of the safest to be on during pregnancy. Of course, nothing is 100% safe. And, during pregnancy, my dosage is increasing approx. 50 mg every 2 weeks b/c of increased blood flow and body mass.

Anyway, I think the best thing to do is to talk to your doctor and have a consult with a high-risk OB, who can talk you through what extra monitoring you may need during pregnancy. I doubt they will recommend going off the meds.