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WORRIED ABOUT DATING
Sun, 08/17/2014 - 20:45I don't know how a guy is going to treat me because of my sezuires. they are not really bad. most of the time I don't have them. I'm getting older and I ready to have somebody in my life. I just don't know how to know if they going to use me or not. like the last one. should I just tell them in the begging and see. I'm not sure. I have a daughter but I'm looking to maybe have more. but this time I want a person to love me.
Hi,Maybe I can help with this
Submitted by Lana112 on Mon, 2014-10-20 - 13:14
Hi,Maybe I can help with this. I definitely took the wrong approach when it came to telling my boyfriend about my epilepsy. We had been dating about two months and I was waiting for the right time to tell him. I figured two months was too soon. One night we were at his house, watching TV, and I felt an aura coming on and I went into his bedroom (where my purse was) to get my pills, which he thought I took for migraines (which is TECHNICALLY true). I didn't make it in time, and I had a seizure right in front of him. He started freaking out - crying, not knowing what to do, and I couldn't answer his questions due to my convulsions. He called the paramedics, and then my dad, who explained my condition. He was so understanding- he stayed in the hospital overnight and even went to an all-night Subway to get me my favorite sandwich. Now, two years later, we're living together, and he always makes sure I have my meds on me, drives me to my neurologist appointments and is even over-protective. He has also said that staying with me in the hospital made him realize that he really cares about me.The point I am trying to make is that while it might not be a first-date topic, if you feel like you may be getting serious with someone, yes, tell them. If they leave, they weren't worth it anyway. If they ask questions, are supportive and want to help, go for it! Don't be embarrassed! It's not something to be ashamed of! My boyfriend has made me realize it's a part of who I am - I may as well tell people, "oh, I also dye my hair a little darker." You WILL meet someone. Go on as many dates as you want!