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Daitng w/ Epilepsy?

Sat, 03/31/2007 - 19:31
Is dating that "perfect someone" hard for you because you have Epilepsy and they don't. Have you ever been in these shoes? What have you done? Do you keep it a secret til they find out from the "Grapevine" or do you come out and tell them? As for me I come right out and tell them. I wait for the right time but I do tell them. Sometimes the right time for me was when he came crossed my "MIAB(medical identification alert bracelet)" or if he asked me a question that is this type.... Is there any "secret" I need to know about you? Or a similar question. Up until I last year (17 yrs old) It was the hardest subject for me to talk about. Now since doing a FFCLA project on Epilepsy Awareness I feel much better and can/will talk about it. What are some other ways you deal with "hiding" or having an "Open discussion" about epilepsy with your date? How do you cope with taking you meds in front of them or do you wait til they leave? Finally what are some "Activities" you are limited from because of Epilepsy? Don't get down on yourself because you have Epilepsy. Look at the things it kind of "Shelters" you from trying or doing. I have lived with it since I was a 19 month old baby. I'm now 18 and I tell myself everyday that "I'm SPECIAL in my own eyes and ways!" As you can see I don't let this limit me at all. Thanks for answering my questions and taking time to look this over.

Comments

Re: Daitng w/ Epilepsy?

Submitted by Sophie.t on Sat, 2013-06-01 - 15:14
Hi, I've been with my partner for 2 years now..I was scared to tell him at first when we got together but I felt great when I told him as he understood about it. We are now currently engaged & looking for our own home to live in and start our own family & get married in 2015. It is ok to be scared to tell them at first...but most importantly explain to them what to do when you have a seizure and what seizures you have :) x

Re: Daitng w/ Epilepsy?

Submitted by mitsybitsy on Sat, 2011-08-13 - 19:08
Hi, I have been having some trouble with this issue lately.  I was married to a guy who accepted me for my seizures, but we are getting divorced.  Now that I see how hard it is to date with epilepsy I wonder if I made a big mistake.  My husband I believe took advantage of me b/c he knew I had this disability, so he started treating me like I didnt matter.  He lied and took all my money prob close to $21,000 forged my disability checks.  So now I wonder will anyone ever accept me despite my seizures.  I dont even have them anymore  I have been doing really well after my 2 brain surgeries.  That was the other reason I had to leave my husband he would stress me out so much, he would bring them on, since we have been apart I dont have them anymore.  I am recently going back to school trying to better myself, but I cant help but wonder will anyone ever accept me for who I am rather than what I have.  Its just real hard, dont really have any friends and I am 30 yrs old I have had this disorder for over 20 yrs now, although I am doing well now I would just like to finally settle down and find happiness in my life why is that too much to ask for?  Thank you in advance.

Re: Daitng w/ Epilepsy?

Submitted by Frank Lee on Sun, 2013-06-02 - 00:10

I agree with autumn 18....noone is normal. If they think they are, they are living under a rock. 

Knocking others for their views is just a little condescending; bragging about one's family and career is just a little self-absorbed. 

The level of being "not normal" can easily depend on the type of epilepsy.

Hang in there autumn 18

I agree with autumn 18....noone is normal. If they think they are, they are living under a rock. 

Knocking others for their views is just a little condescending; bragging about one's family and career is just a little self-absorbed. 

The level of being "not normal" can easily depend on the type of epilepsy.

Hang in there autumn 18

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