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marriage threatened by epilepsy

Mon, 08/07/2006 - 21:54
married to man with adult onset epilepsy that began about 18 months ago for no apparent reason--I cannot possibly imagine what he must be going through--he takes a LOT of medication and is under a lot of stress (can't work, no money, son in jail, I had a marital indiscretion, and much more) and frankly, I do not blame him for supplementing his medication cocktail--but I KNOW the alcohol is not a good idea, and I am worried about the pot (altho I hear it is probably ok), and he has a history of addiction (10 years ago) and I fear the direction he seems to be going in and I fear another grand mal and I don't know any more what is best for our 10-year old daughter--my friends are sick of hearing me whine, and I don't think they can really understand. I don't know what to do for my husband anymore. I don't know what to do for my family.

Comments

Re: marriage threatened by epilepsy

Submitted by angel_lts on Tue, 2006-08-08 - 07:45
I am sorry for the troubles you are having. It really is tough to have seizures. But you need to talk with your doctor. FOr the alcohol and mix with the meds will just bring the seizures on more. He needs to talk with a therapist/psycologist to help him through his problems. He has to understand the pain he is bringing on to the family and you just telling him probably will not work. Get professional help and fast!! take care Lisa http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/epilepsyapproach/

Re: marriage threatened by epilepsy

Submitted by Cathy_C on Tue, 2006-08-08 - 18:29
Hello, I agree, you do need to seek help, probably best as a couple. He is not only putting his life in jeopardy, but yours and your daughters as well. I would do this fast before your marriage can not be saved. Work as a team and be as understanding as you can and you just might be able to pull this together. Good Luck & God Bless. Cathy

Re: marriage threatened by epilepsy

Submitted by CG on Tue, 2006-08-08 - 18:56
Addiction is difficult, even if the person is not epileptic. There are groups out there that you can go to, people you can talk to, professionals, spiritual, and there is always those of us on line. I would seek professional help and ask them about groups you can go to for support, and groups that your husband and daughter can also go to.

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