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Very Lonely-Please HELP!!!
Fri, 06/09/2006 - 11:06Hi my name is Jim and for the past year or so I have been so lonely. I have had epilepsy for the past 16 years and have had girlfriends but there was always alcohol involved. I am a recovering alcoholic with 14 months of sobriety. I haven't had a seizure in 11 years. I have a great family and little baby girl that bring me so much joy but that relationship is missing. It is causing a void in my heart. I have so much love inside that is just festering there and no one to share it with. Some times I just don't know what I am going to do. Am I going to be single the rest of my life. It would really help me out if I could make some friends. I have a phone at home and it never rings because I have no friends and never hang out with anyone. I don't know anyone specifically with E. I would love to be friends with anyone that has it. I live in Albany county(watervliet) NY. Anyone far away for near by who would like to start a friendship please email me jpolaro@mail.nysed.gov May be we can get together and start a wonderful friendship men and women.
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Re: Very Lonely-Please HELP!!!
Submitted by vrawls on Fri, 2006-06-09 - 14:52
I am new to the group, but I can relate to a common problem we all share and that our peers and family don't understand the struggles we face on a daily basis. Congrats on 14 months sober!!!! Celebrate that, that is a huge accomplishment that should not be taken lightly. Relationships are overrated, in my opinion. Be patient, God will send you the right person. No need to feel alone, you have a whole network of people on this site who support you and understand exactly how you feel. Keep your head up and I'll talk with you soon.
Re: Re: Very Lonely-Please HELP!!!
Submitted by gretchen1 on Fri, 2006-06-09 - 20:24
A GREAT BIG Congratulations on 14 months of sobriety. My husband had a huge struggle to get and to stay dry, and is to this day. His life improves constantly.
Jim what about looking for support groups in your area? Even non-E ones like Parent without Partners. I don't know how big your community is but many communities have church's too known for their bigger attendance of people who sound like they're your age and have appropriate functions targeted for singles or single parents. Do you go to AA? Do they have AA dances around you? Another thing to consider is look for a volunteer clearning house in your community. I have volunteered. One person I met moved to another and another. Not all my age. Plus I'm married, not looking for a partner but I sure met a lot of people. If there is no clearing house call the library, community pantry, or look around your community to see what volunteers are needed.
This is very isolating. I think relationship deficits are a problem for many of us.
Gretchen
Re: Very Lonely-Please HELP!!!
Submitted by dayv on Fri, 2008-10-24 - 16:57
We'll, Jim, here is another man going threw similar problems. I have epilepsy. Ive had this problem since I was 11 years old (Im now 40). It seems like very few people understand you and dont want to get involved with you because of your problem. Since having brain surgery my epilepsy has become much better which I have been very happy with. I just havent found and good friends to help me along in life especially a woman, so I have become lonely also. Lets talk,
Dayv
We'll, Jim, here is another man going threw similar problems. I have epilepsy. Ive had this problem since I was 11 years old (Im now 40). It seems like very few people understand you and dont want to get involved with you because of your problem. Since having brain surgery my epilepsy has become much better which I have been very happy with. I just havent found and good friends to help me along in life especially a woman, so I have become lonely also. Lets talk,
Dayv