Upset and frustrated!

I am a candidate for surgery for ltl.I suffer from complex partial seizures weekly on scale from 1 to 20 a week (every week is different), I no longer have grand mals since I am now taking topamax along with tegretol. I still have a few more tests to do yet such as the fMRI, WADA and neuro-psycologicol exam, all to be done this summer. Then I will be informed on the percentage rate of risks and success the surgery would be if I still want to go ahead with it. I talked to a friend of mine a couple of days ago about this, hoping he would be happy for me, but instead I got "why would you want someone poking in your brain when you are fine as you are?" I nearly cried! but didn't of course. I listened to what he had to say because this is what I'll probably get from my own family when I tell them the news later, but only if I still go ahead with the surgery. He continued on "Do you still have big ones?" he meant grand mals, and so I said no but I do i partial seizures weekly. And he said "there JUST minor ones, why risk your life for JUST minor seizures? You get through them". I said they are not Just minor seizures trying to explain to him that these seizures I have are not just nothing. I was upset by his remarks but at the same time, i can understand why he saying this. He doesn't have E, he doesn't know what it's like, when he sees me I'm a perfectly normal human being just like anyone else he sees and cant understand why I would want to volunteer myself into brain surgery! I tried to expalin the benefits to him if I do undergo the surgery and all went well, but I dont think I did a good job of it because he still thought there was no need for me to have the surgery. I mentioned I could drive someday, not get upset when I have a seizure anymore, be more independant, do things without supervision such as swimming, dont have to feel fear of seizure anymore, side effects of medication anymore, have children with no medication on me hopefully, etc these are all possibilities with surgery, without it - I will always have problems. I can live with it if I really have to. But do I want to? So there you have it, my friend things they are nothing really, I get thru them as he did say, I can handle it in other words. But they are NOT nothing to me! Sorry for the long drawn out post, i just needed to get this off my chest. My partner has been very supportive on this whole issue and and when I told him whet my friend said he said that my family will probably react the same way, and so I have to be prepared for whats to come. Thanks for listening, any comments are more than welcome if you wish to share. Sorry again, for the long post, Quirky