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tired of being alone
Wed, 04/01/2015 - 01:16hi i have no real friends these days.i was friends with a few people from the epilepsy foundation near me.but the only thing we had in common is that we have epilepsy.plus some of the people caused a lot of drama.i have had friends without epilepsy in the past but i tried to hide that i have epilepsy and don't drive.scared of dating and making friends because of my past experinces.
So you had friends until they
Submitted by Anonymous on Thu, 2015-04-02 - 19:07
So you had friends until they knew you had epilepsy. I did to but rather then letting them and epilepsy control my life I looked for others and I already had some who after finding out and hearing me tell them about epilepsy and things that need to eb done if they see a person having a seizure they then looked differently at me. The first thinng to do if you have a friends not wanting to associate with you is ask then a few questions. It can make them think again. I asked some of those that I had been friends with certain questions about people who have handicaps. Jane wears glasses will you stay friends with her? Jim uses crutches what about him are you going to stay friends with him? Fred wears a hearing aid will he still be friends with you? Then I tell them that all of those people have a handicap or a issue they have to deal with. The difference with them and me is their issue or handicap can be seen. Oh and dennis has diapetis what will you do with him? Yu see Dennis and I have a handicap that can't be seen. We have a problem we have to deal with daily. So what are you going to do with Dennis and I are we any diferent than any of the others? We can do everything you can why are you not accepting us and yet assept them? I had a lot of friends come back to my side. I also had other kids tell me that they were friends with ocme of the kids I talked to. I know it isn't easy to understand but today it is a lot easier then when I was a teen. Technology has come a long way.WHen I was diagnosed we hadn't gotten to the moon. There was no home computer then. Phones were still connected to wires. Oh and there were patrty lines but they were not line yo ucalled to find out where a party is. There were rael operators.I was 13-14 when I was diagnosed which was 50+ years ago. In other words learn to control your epilepsy and don't let epilepsy control what you do. You are no different then your next door neighbor. In this world there are no garuntees. If someone thinks they have it made they aret thnking abut the big old world, One of them can be hit by a car while crossing the street tomorrow. Or they can trip and break their back. No one knows what will happen tomorrow so live for today.