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Stress and seizures and marriage issues

Thu, 03/01/2007 - 19:55
I am 28 years old and I have been married for about 2 months. My husband does not know much about epilepsy. My seizures are mostly triggered by lack of sleep and stress. He just believes I say that as an excuse. He does not know much about epilepsy and does not think it is serious. I am sleepy through most of my day and if I do not get a nap I begin having aura's. We have alot of marriage problems and money stress. How do I help him understand any of this? I also have Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and Fibromyalgia. None of these he understands either he just thinks I am tired and lazy. I also have an autistic son which is a source of huge stress for me, but he leaves alot of the responsibilty of him to me no matter how I am feeling. Please help me. Tera

Comments

Well, you should show him

Submitted by sayand446 on Sat, 2019-03-30 - 02:23
Well, you should show him your reports and he should talk to your doctor. It isn't a joke. It's a very serious issue. I don't know why people don't take it seriously. Even I have epilepsy. I use to go for a job daily. It's very stressful and my wife is a housewife. She filed a divorce 4 months back with the help of a divorce lawyer in our city Lucknow https://www.myadvo.in/divorce-lawyers/lucknow/ because I had epilepsy and I feel tired all day. I couldn't give her much time as after 7 hours of work daily I need time to relax and good sleep. I am taking care of my family as much as I can. I used to spend my weekend with my wife and daughter. She is not taking this issue seriously. Now she wants custody of my daughter along with a huge amount of alimony. I don't know how long will it take to get a divorce. This relationship Sucks.

Re: Stress and seizures and marriage issues

Submitted by jbarry315 on Fri, 2007-03-02 - 05:10
Tera, it's not time to give up. Part of what you're feeling may be due to the medication you're taking--- which you didn't specify; and, if it has the same effects as something like Phenytoin(Dilantin), then it serves to remove sodium from those areas where electrical impulses in your brain are transmitted and carried. That depresses your central nervous system; and, as a result, you move slower, think through a fog, feel as though you're worn-out all the time, and expend what energy you've got at a higher rate than normal. Feeling like that is depressing. Add to that the fibromyalgia, which by definition is of undetermined origin and centers around nerve junctions itself, and it's understandable that you feel overwhelmed. AND, I have twin boys, now 12, who are autistic--- and whose mother is suffering from fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue syndrome also, as well as a few other serious maladies. This kind of stress complicates matters exceedingly for you, I know. The last thing you need is a lack of support; but, nobody can explain to someone who has already made up their mind. What's left to do is try to deal with it without losing sight of what's important--- and that means keeping yourself intact. I can't know how to address your situation with your new spouse--- much doesn't appear to add up. Maybe a family counselor could help, if you can both go together. Often, that's beneficial in finding the middle ground between spouses who can't see eye-to-eye; and, it can provide some input from someone interested in seeing things worked out. Sometimes, that kind of input will be accepted due to the fact that it is recognized as not being opinionated or slanted; and, what concerns your husband can be brought out and discussed impartially. It just might be that, underneath it all, he is feeling something he doesn't want to admit concerning all of this--- like fear... Epilepsy is scary. So is the prospect of having something happen to the woman you love, and not being able to do anything to prevent it... And, have a talk with your doctor. Let him(her?) know of your situation, and how you're feeling. It might be that an adjustment in the level of your medication is in order. And your son? Try learning American Sign Language(ASL) with him. That is an invaluable tool for communicating with him; and, it's interactive--- and will be something you two can share... Even just a few signs can make all the difference... Check the library for a book... And you've got to remember: You didn't ask for this stuff; but, having it is a fact--- not a choice you can opt-out of... You CAN survive through it; and, it makes you a more compassionate person in the living of the experience. THAT is something valuable--- and can't NOBODY take it. Protect it. If you've got your son, your husband, your sight, your limbs, your hearing, some reasoning capability, and a roof over your head, then there's not much else to ask for. You're better off than it might appear right now; and, you're still standing... That's the plus. Hope it helps... jb You kind've hadda be there--- and all of us were, regardless of who doesn't understand. We, it appears, know something they don't; and, we're stronger for it...

Re: Re: Stress and seizures and marriage issues

Submitted by JimmyTera2006 on Fri, 2007-03-02 - 15:26
Thank you JB for your response I will try some of your suggestions. I did ask him about it last night and he did admit that it does scare him. Tera

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