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Epilepsy.com -Where Everyone is Welcome???

Mon, 08/06/2007 - 01:53
I did a lot of reading on this site before I finally decided to join. I thought it was a community where everyone was welcome. Well, lately I've learned that not everyone agrees. There are a lot of people on this site who wish to exclude anyone who annoys them. I haven’t seen such a huge degree of snobby exclusion since middle school. Apparently, not everyone is cool enough for the super-cool-kids club. I think that the purpose of this site is to educate, support, and share. It's not to exclude and judge someone else unworthy because they complain too much or post too many links. It is most certainly not here to make people and their many burdens, concerns, and questions feel unwelcome. A lot of people on this site are at very confusing and difficult time in their lives. Not everyone knows how to deal with this. A lot of people have no where else to turn, and are desperately seeking counsel and advice on everything from how to deal with doctors and family members to basic information on the kind of medication they are taking. Sometimes anxious people can be annoying, and even may be perceived as rude. Ranters may be perceived as "drama queens" and people with psychogenic symptoms may be perceived as "fakers." Nevertheless, these people still deserve our understanding and our compassion, and I think that we have all been one of these people at one point or another. There are people on the internet with malicious or mischievous intent, but I have found their number to be few on this site, and it isn't right to group everyone who you don't like or disagree with into that category. There are a lot of good people on this site, and I would be very sorry to see this site turn into a site of exclusion and intolerance instead of support and compassion. Although I may be new to this site, I extend my welcome to everyone. I think that when people come to this site they should feel assured that they won't be accused of being a drama queen, a ranter, a know-it-all, and least of all, a faker. I used to have that confidence, but now I'm not so sure.

Comments

Re: Epilepsy.com -Where Everyone is Welcome???

Submitted by jacky99 on Mon, 2007-08-06 - 02:03
you just said everything i wanted to say. thanks

Well, sometimes there are

Submitted by itsmyeviltwin on Wed, 2007-08-08 - 17:21
Well, sometimes there are limits to a grownups' patience. When a board begins to resemble the scenes of 'Girl interrupted' its getting a bit out of control and it seems reasonable to say 'enough' in my opinion. How about we leave it at: we should all be friendly to new folks, and basically in all other respects act like real grownup people? That we can all agree with hopefully :)

Re: Well, sometimes there are

Submitted by SunflowerPower on Wed, 2007-08-08 - 21:39
I cannot excuse intolerance as "a grownup's impatience." So you want to say "enough, I'm sick of hearing about your problems," and be respectful at the same time??? I'm really interested in someone explaining how this is supposed to work. How do you say that your sick of hearing someone’s problems and be respectful at the same time? Oh, wait..YOU CANT. These complaints against "whiners" and posts saying "enough" are nothing but empty words that offend but do not accomplish anything. A bunch of hateful and frustrated words against a phantom group of people accomplishes NOTHING but offended and alienate people who shouldn’t be while completely missing people who be wise to pay attention. I dare you. List the people who you think are so awful. I really like to know who you think these people are. Which posts? Point one out! Then maybe you can take action instead of just whining and complaining. Am I on that list? Would you be on someone else's list? Probably. I bet that every single one of us would be on someone's list. Sure, it's easy to point at others and criticize. It might even be a easy way to make us feel better about ourselves. What good does it accomplish and how? Explain it to me. Please!

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