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To those with memory loss.....
Wed, 05/20/2009 - 18:27Topic: Family & Friends
Do you have family members that treat you like you have Alzheimer's
because you have a memory problem? There is one member of my family
that is bad to not let me finish talking before they jump in and start
talking and trying to correct me when there wasn't anything to correct
yet because I hadn't finished. This person is treating me like I don't
know what I'm talking about. But, if they would just listen first and
let me finish talking then they would know I'm not as bad as they think
I am. Then if I need correcting, fine but give me a chance to finish
first. This same person if they don't remember something I tell them,
they treat me like I don't know what I'm talking about but what it
boils down to is they have a memory problem also but won't admit it.
It's like because I can't remember some things they don't believe
anything I say. Another issue is, one family member before she starts
to tell me something she thinks I should already know, she will start
every sentence with, "You probably don't remember this......" My doctor
has said that my memory problem is normal for people with epilepsy but
by the way some of my family members treat me you would think I am an
Alzheimer patient. They don't give me a chance to see if I remember it
or not they just assume I don't remember anything! Does any of your
family treat you this way or similar? It hurts and it gets so old!
Re: To those with memory loss.....
Submitted by pewter on Wed, 2009-05-20 - 21:14
I have one for whom when I am in conversation with, immediately starts talking over me, twisting my words, and then acts as though later - they don't remember me saying anything that I've said. He then treats me as if I haven't sense enough to know what was said or what I was trying to say. Then when I attempt to defend myself, I'm then accused of being hysterical and incapable of speaking with.
When I know that I know that I know, for example, that an item is missing (not laid somewhere else, actually missing) I am then treated as though I am an imbocile (?sp) in not remembering where I last saw and/or laid the item down. I will insist that I haven't and he will just continue to patronizingly accuse me of not remembering where I put whatever.
If something suddenly doesn't work as it should; then suddenly I haven't the sense to know how to work the item. It doesn't matter that it may be a common household item, the lawnmower, etc... I suddenly haven't the sense to know how to actually work the item I have been working since wee little - according to him. He then feels the need to explain step by step, in detail, how one works whatever item in a most condescending manner as though I was 2.
This, he, my elderly father. I, me, 42.
I get my memory is shot to haities. I readily admit it. I'm very bothered by it. Yet, I know what I know what I know and my mind, though quite similar to his at the age of 78, isn't AS BAD yet.
He says he has an excuse, he is old and senile. I'm nearly half his age and I have no excuse outside of medication and seizures.
My sisters ask me quite often if I need a tutor to teach me so that I can help tutor my 13 year old with homework? They ask this each time, laughing. Kidding, they say.
I don't find it so humorous.
I have one for whom when I am in conversation with, immediately starts talking over me, twisting my words, and then acts as though later - they don't remember me saying anything that I've said. He then treats me as if I haven't sense enough to know what was said or what I was trying to say. Then when I attempt to defend myself, I'm then accused of being hysterical and incapable of speaking with.
When I know that I know that I know, for example, that an item is missing (not laid somewhere else, actually missing) I am then treated as though I am an imbocile (?sp) in not remembering where I last saw and/or laid the item down. I will insist that I haven't and he will just continue to patronizingly accuse me of not remembering where I put whatever.
If something suddenly doesn't work as it should; then suddenly I haven't the sense to know how to work the item. It doesn't matter that it may be a common household item, the lawnmower, etc... I suddenly haven't the sense to know how to actually work the item I have been working since wee little - according to him. He then feels the need to explain step by step, in detail, how one works whatever item in a most condescending manner as though I was 2.
This, he, my elderly father. I, me, 42.
I get my memory is shot to haities. I readily admit it. I'm very bothered by it. Yet, I know what I know what I know and my mind, though quite similar to his at the age of 78, isn't AS BAD yet.
He says he has an excuse, he is old and senile. I'm nearly half his age and I have no excuse outside of medication and seizures.
My sisters ask me quite often if I need a tutor to teach me so that I can help tutor my 13 year old with homework? They ask this each time, laughing. Kidding, they say.
I don't find it so humorous.