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showing appreciation
Mon, 03/28/2005 - 14:33my boyfriend has just been amazing the past week since my seizure on monday. he stayed with me in the ER for five hours, he drove me to the neurologist the next day, he has gotten me anything i want to eat (which has consisted mostly of milkshakes bc solid food is still hard to put in my mouth bc of when i bit it up) he has brought me to get my prescriptions filled twice, taken me on countless errands and won't even sleep until he knows my meds have kicked in and i'm out. he was so tired today he fell asleep for four hours until i called at 9 and woke up him.
what can i do for this guy to show how much it all meant to me? getting him something doesn't cut it... i've cooked dinner a bunch so that's not "special" anymore. he's totally rearranged his work schedule, his gym schedule... his friends... everything. i want to really show him what it meant to me.
i'm asking here because you all know what it means to have someone supportive, this isn't just taking care of me because i have a cold.
thanks :)
Mandi
Comments
RE: showing appreciation
Submitted by batman on Mon, 2005-03-28 - 14:33
Mandi,
I'm a guy with epilepsy, but what I would consider as being a form of showing appreciation, if you were trying to show it to me, is just staying together. Just by being there with him is going to be the greatest gift of all. You’re saying that cooking dinner isn’t “special” anymore. Is that something you feel yourself, or did he say something or sending you signals that he doesn’t consider what you’re doing as being “special” anymore?
I thought that I finally found someone on here. She and I talk by email, chatting online and phone, but fear jumped in because of the lack of communication, which resulted in her throwing me out of her life. By the way, she has epilepsy herself. To show my respect for her IÂ’m not going to post her name. I didnÂ’t know much of anything about her seizures. How will I find out unless she has the courage to tell me?
Get with him somewhere where no one else is around, look at him straight into his eyes and say “thank you”. Lower your feelings of stress and fear, with all this, to make it so simple like if you are having a cold. Think of what you would do if he had the cold, what would you do for him?
Hang on tight, and don't let go.Bruce CJ
RE: showing appreciation
Submitted by angel_lts on Sat, 2005-03-26 - 07:43
That was so nice. You only could do so much. I am married and feel that I owe it to him. I just treat him nice and thank him. He drives me everywhere and I thank him. I bake his favorite foods, and cook all the time. But he truely knows I appreciate everything he does for me. But my husband knew when he married me that this is what it is going to be like. But he is ok with it. He does not expect me to bend over backwords, day in and day out. I just treat him right and bake and cook his favorite foods.http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/EpilepsyApproach/Lisa