My husband has epilepsy and I feel alone

I have been with my husband for almost a decade and we have been married for almost 4 of those years. He was upfront with me when we started dating about it. Honestly I knew very little about epilepsy until we got together. I love my husband and would never ever leave his side, but I feel very much more like his mother than his wife. He has had seizures since he was 12 and he has them almost daily. Luckily the grand mal seizures are for the most part under control, but the petty mal seizures still come on quite often. He is able to work and his employer is aware of his condition, but he cannot drive which upsets him and makes him feel like he can't do anything on his own. No one in my family or our group of friends understands the daily struggles we go through. He gets depressed because he said he feels like he should be taking care of me not the other way around. He said it makes him feel like less of a man because I am the "bread winner" and he makes just over min wage. I don't feel like he is less of a man at all! He can't help his condition. They can't fix his epilepsy because his seizures occur on both sides of his brain all they could do was VNS therapy which honestly has not helped a whole lot. Now he is talking about wanting us to have children and I am scared to death about it. What if he goes into a seizure while holding our child and it results in our child being hurt? He would never forgive himself...any advice on the situation would be helpful I just feel very alone in this and need advice.