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mom & dad

Mon, 03/07/2005 - 01:01
I am a 20 yr old college student who is in the process of getting her license. But that's not the problem here. I'm 20 and i need to move out of my house soon before me and my mom kill each other. We really don't get along. I'm going to be moving to the city in April but both my mom and dad are opposed to it. Do you know any ways that I can convince them that I will be ok? I will be living w/ 2 roommates and one is majoring in nursing so she knows her stuff but is that enough?  

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RE: mom & dad

Submitted by batman on Sun, 2005-02-27 - 20:41

Just a wild shot and joke.

Maybe you need to ask your parents to move out.

 

Ask them, or find out somehow yourself, what steps they went through to receive their parent's [your grandparent's] approval to move out on their own AND what was their age when it happened.

Most likely reasons why they don't want you to move away is because you are their child, and possibly has something to do with your medical condition, if you have a medical condition, ie epilepsy.

Have some more thoughts and ideas like hints and tips, but the main one is just stand up for yourself, because your future, is your decision. Not theirs.

Hope the moving and continuing college education goes well for you. Good Luck.

Bruce J

Just a wild shot and joke.

Maybe you need to ask your parents to move out.

 

Ask them, or find out somehow yourself, what steps they went through to receive their parent's [your grandparent's] approval to move out on their own AND what was their age when it happened.

Most likely reasons why they don't want you to move away is because you are their child, and possibly has something to do with your medical condition, if you have a medical condition, ie epilepsy.

Have some more thoughts and ideas like hints and tips, but the main one is just stand up for yourself, because your future, is your decision. Not theirs.

Hope the moving and continuing college education goes well for you. Good Luck.

Bruce J

RE: mom & dad

Submitted by OGHennyloc on Mon, 2005-02-28 - 11:22
Hey, I'm 25 and I've been where you are as far as moving out goes. I had to attend college in another state to get away from my parents. You have to understand though, that as much as you and your mom fight, you are her child and she most likely, will do anything to protect you.  And she sees keeping you at home as protecting you.  It's great that your new roomie is a nursing student (God bless her!) but you need to make sure she knows what you would want her to do for you in case you have a sz.  Speaking as a nurse, and of course, an epileptic, it's been my experience that usually no one knows an epileptics seizure patterns better than that epileptic. So as long as you can handle yourself and your buisness, I say go ahead and move out. That's the only way your folks can know for certain that you are ok away from home. Remember, you're an adult and you no longer need mommy and daddy's permission (unless their paying for college, and that's a whole new ballgame!) Just a note here: I've been living on my own for the last 6 years and my parents STILL call  and check on me AT LEAST 5 times a week!

RE: RE: mom & dad

Submitted by pongosmommy on Mon, 2005-02-28 - 12:47
Hello,My Mom and Dad still check up on me weekly. I am married, with kids of my own and in my mid 40's. But now, I don't mind as much, because I am reassured that they are doing ok also.As a parent I can only say this, once that bond is made, it is very hard to let go. You wan't to protect your child, because that is your job as a parent. And if something happens to your child, you feel as if you failed. (at least I did) But every parent also knows (or at least should) that there comes a time when you have to let your child venture out on their own. This is when the Empty nest syndrome hits us mothers. Who are we supposed to take care of and nurture/protect? It is especially hard if your child has an illness. My daughter has asthma. It was very hard for me to let her go away for a week. My thoughts were what if she has an attack?, What if she can't get to the Nurse in time? I had a couple rough days but you learn to let your child be themselves. I can't make my child live inside a bubble protecting her from every asthma trigger. Yes, she had an attack, but she knew what to do, and she had her Meds with her.Maybe you can talk to your Mom and explain that You know what to do, and you will talk to your roommate to be sure she knows what to do, it will be hard on your MOM, but she will need to let You Live Your Life.Dayna

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