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Does anyone else's family ever let them down??
Thu, 11/25/2004 - 19:54Topic: Family & Friends
Today was a support group barbeque.I was planning to go. My daughter was going to come just so I wouldn't be alone. I have never been and was nervous. She changed her mind. I had a hard time, but was going to go anyway. My husband was going to leave work early to drive me. The time came and went. He didn't show up. An hour after I was ready he calls from the grocery store, asking if I want anything. I swore at him and hung up. As I write this I realize that he lied to me. He bought some stuff and came home. His excuse "I thought you took the bus" Why would he call to ask if I wanted anything if He thought I had already left?? He knew how much this meant to me. I have been talking about it all week. I am hurt and angry. 2 days ago he got up early to take his brother's car to the garage. This is an adult who can drive. For all of the talk of being there my family really doesn't care. Ok, so they have to watch the seizures. They don't understand how horrible you feel after them. Sorry for rambling. Am I wrong to be hurt and upset??
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RE: Does anyone else's family ever let them down??
Submitted by momof1 on Tue, 2004-07-20 - 08:11
I'm so sorry to hear of how you were treated. Your father should be shot. I was also disowned by a step family. I had a seizure after their wedding and embarassed them. When I tried to explain, complex partials can be weird, they called me a liar. I sent medical reports and pamphlets, they still won't talk to me. Their loss. It still hurts, but what can I do??It's being called a liar that hurts the most. Thanks for your reply.
RE: Does anyone else's family ever let them down??
Submitted by cledder on Tue, 2004-07-20 - 09:06
My parents were kind of hoping the doctor would reverse his diagnosis and have it be cancer or something that they would feel OK telling their friends about. Thankfully I have married into a wonderful accepting family far different from my own. My mother couldn't believe his mother wouldn't object to him marrying me because of my problems. It's the ignorance of our culture and I'm not sure I know how to change it.
RE: Does anyone else's family ever let them down??
Submitted by mexican_fire on Mon, 2004-07-19 - 22:42
How about disown you for your seizures. That is what MOST of mine has done.You are NOT wrong to feel hurt and upset over this. If you didn't, I wouldn't think you were normal.My dad calls them afflictions, and told my mom my whole child hood that I will out grow it, and that I didn't need any help. Today he still feels the same way. I have been cheated out of having a dad. He abused me, which is how I wound up with epilepsy. He would hit me in the head with a 2x4 like it was a ball on a tee, pick me up by the throat, neck, or jaw, and slam the back of my head on the wall repeated times, and he threw me down the attic steps which were outside, and I fell 20 feet to the ground, and landed on top of my dog's chain link pen.His mother was the same way always trying to buy me off with a low amount of money when she gave my two cousins and my brother a lot more than that.Then there is my mom's brother who tells her he doesn't want to be responsible if I have a seizure, and that I am an inconvenience and an embarrassment to him, and I make him look bad in public, then my grandpa, my mom's dad, said that I should be stuffed away in an institution so I couldn't be seen by others.I only have my brother, his wife, and my mom and her sisters, and that is all for support.How about that for making one uspet and hurt. I am mad more than I am hurt, actually.They only care about themselves and no one else. They step all over everyone and each other to get what they want, and they do it at someone else's cost.Nice, huh???I will be thinking of you, because I know how difficult something like this is, because I am going through it as well.Good luck,Nancy