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Do you feel this way?

Tue, 09/28/2010 - 07:00
Topic: Family & Friends
Do you feel this way? I'm not able to drive because of my seizures. I've been telling my husband for years that it's hard for me to ask someone to take me anywhere when they NEVER offer to when they know it's needed or when it's not. I feel like they don't really want to do it or they would offer and if they don't want to, I don't want them to. He has never understood my feeling this way but I think he is starting to understand it now. The reason is, he is in the hospital and is needing a ride home when he is discharged. We have grown children that have not offered to help us out with this. They have not even asked how am I getting him home or offered and because of this, he doesn't want to ask them which I understand. Does being in this position make you feel this way? I'm just curious if others share my feelings.

Comments

Re: Do you feel this way?

Submitted by smallsock on Tue, 2010-09-28 - 12:14

Been here even though I don't have seizures.  Do you think anyone through your church (if you attend one) would be willing to help?  Sometimes friends end up being more family than your family.

If you have a vehicle you could exchange rides for the usage of your car.  Get someone trustworthy and you might want to get expectations in writing, like the schedule.  I would have loved to do this for someone when I didn't have a car.  Walking in Mississippi heat and humidity is no fun with several kids!!

Hope this helps!

Been here even though I don't have seizures.  Do you think anyone through your church (if you attend one) would be willing to help?  Sometimes friends end up being more family than your family.

If you have a vehicle you could exchange rides for the usage of your car.  Get someone trustworthy and you might want to get expectations in writing, like the schedule.  I would have loved to do this for someone when I didn't have a car.  Walking in Mississippi heat and humidity is no fun with several kids!!

Hope this helps!

Re: Do you feel this way?

Submitted by jimn on Tue, 2010-09-28 - 14:21

I have a question for you. From whaqt I have just read, there is a reason why your children are not offering to assist you. Either they are terribly spoiled and selfish, or there is a great lack of love in the family. This is not an issue that you can say is "Epilepsy's" fault.

I have a question for you. From whaqt I have just read, there is a reason why your children are not offering to assist you. Either they are terribly spoiled and selfish, or there is a great lack of love in the family. This is not an issue that you can say is "Epilepsy's" fault.

Re: Do you feel this way?

Submitted by Kathy781 on Thu, 2010-09-30 - 09:27
I apologize if I didn't make myself clear. I wasn't interested in who or what is to blame. I just used our children as an example to hopefully help with explaining how I feel. I was only interested in if others shared this feeling about asking others for help in driving.

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