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Dating Someone With Epilepsy

Sun, 04/03/2016 - 21:52
Hi everyone, My name is Luis and could use a little help, if any. Last year, in early November I started talking to someone who has epilepsy at my university. She didn't immediately told me, but within the month she did. We hanged out a few times and towards the end of the month I decided to ask her out on a date. In December, I asked her out, she said yes, and we had fun :). The day after our date we both went back to our hometowns for the winter break. We texted each other every single day during the winter break, but we even did that since the first day we began talking. On a Friday in January, after we got back from break, she was unconscious while she was driving and got into an accident. She says it has nothing to do with her epilepsy, but I'm unsure about that. But I only know a little about epilepsy to say. She had a few injuries, but she was fine for the most part. I ended up taking care of her during the weekend, as her dad wanted someone to. (It was not a burden for me at all). With time we became boyfriend and girlfriend in February. However, two weeks later she wanted to break up for two reasons. One being she wanted us to focus on our studies and the other because she wasn't feeling it for me, even though it seemed like she did. She wanted to remain friends as well. She has remained distant from me since the breakup, with a few texts every now and then. At a later point in time she mentioned how she has enough people taking care of her as well. Has anyone else had similar experiences? There's a part of me that says her epilepsy might have changed her feelings as I read that epilepsy can effect one's emotions, but like I said earlier I know little about epilepsy. I also read somewhere that independence is important to epileptics, which could have something to do with us; Im not too sure. I apologize for my ignorance, if it has offended anyone, but I would like to know more about relationships involving epilepsy, whether its from people who dated someone with epilepsy, or someone with epilepsy in the dating scene. I do care for this woman and enjoy being with her and would like to be a part of her life and have her a part of mine, but if I need to step away from her for her benefit, then I will.

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