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Dating an epileptic
Tue, 03/28/2017 - 14:25Topic: Family & Friends
I'm a female who is dating a man who has just told me that he's an epileptic. Initially it didn't bother me so much being that I'm a nurse and all, but after some thought, I have so many scenarios running through my mind and I could really use some help, as I really like this guy and could see a future with him. The big issue I have is with driving. He drives and I have and likely will be a passenger in the car with him and the thought of him having a seizure in the car is frightening. What would I do? I have absolutely no clue what I would OR COULD(!) do if this happened. Secondly, what about having kids? How could I leave him alone with a baby? How would that work? We talked briefly about it, and he says that he's been to many neurologists and they can't give him any answers. So he doesn't know what causes them, or if there's a pattern and he's not on any medication for them but says that if he smokes marijuana this seems to keep them in check. The whole thing is thoroughly distressing for me in some ways. As a medical professional, I would think that it would be good to keep looking for answers and as someone who he cares about I would think that he would do the same if he sees a future with us. But I'm really kind of not sure what to do. Or how to cope with some of the big fears and situations I've outlined above. The driving issue scares the living daylights out of me. Please help!
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If a person that has epilepsy
Submitted by just_joe on Tue, 2017-03-28 - 22:51
If a person that has epilepsy goes 6 months without a seizure they can get their license back if it was revoked. If he isn't taking meds as you posted then he may be one of the ones that doesn't have seizures anymore an needs no medication. As for marijuana testing is still being done on th medical side. But I can also say that marijuana calms down the central nervous system. Which is what seizure medications are designed to do. Back in the early 70's I smoked some and yes I went seizure free for almost 3 years. Buy marijuana wasn't the only thing I took and I didn't know some of the triggers that had come out. Today medications are newer and have fewer side effects. I can have a seizure awhile talking to you and you would know nothing about the seizure since then now last a few seconds. Research more and do get him to visit a neurologist that specializes in epilepsy. Depending on how the test come out he may not have seizures anymore. My cousin was seizure free but still took a low dose of medications.
First off, if his seizures
Submitted by Stormi on Tue, 2017-03-28 - 18:34
First off, if his seizures are not controlled, then he should not be driving. Each state has restrictions on driving. Second, regular marijuana is not what helps epilepsy- medical marijuana and CBD oil can in some cases but again not all. He may never know what causes his epilepsy, he may never have an aura but a doctor should be able to help him. Is he willing to let you go with him to an appointment? Many parents with epilepsy hold their babies with no problem. It seems like you have a lot to sort through with this man before you get to that point.