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24 and very overprotective parents
Sat, 12/06/2014 - 03:19Topic: Family & Friends
I have had epilepsy since I was 8. It has been over a decade and I have had ups and downs. My parents are overly protective of me well because I have epilepsy and secondly I am a girl.
I have moved back home from university with my parents and curr looking for a job. So moving out is out of the option. Whenever I try to talk to them they say it's their house it's their rules. Whenever I go out I'm given a curfew which is ridiculous for someone my age. I also have to give them names and no. of people I'm going out with in case they can't reach me. I have to give them 1-2 hourly updates like saying I'm okay. And this can be day curfews also like if i go out for coffee in the afternn i tell my parents an estimate of 7pm, i cant change my plans and go for dinner and come back at 11pm. All my friends are baffled as to why my parents treat me like this, as do I. I feel the pace they are going, they are pushing me away. Doing more harm than good.
The other day I sent a text and it was autocorrected and my mom got hysterical and thought something had happened to me and without checking with me she asked my dad to pick me up. It was my best friends birthday. I was soo embarrassed. I also feel the way she is limiting me, I'm slowly gnna be loosing my friends.
I have suggested counseling but my mom is against it. She thinks they are just going to give me pills or something.
My parents always have to have the last say. They don't see me as an adult. They treat me like a 5 year. I feel like I'm trapped.
Is anyone in the same boat as me?? Suggestions how to approach them. I'm 24 I can't go on like this.
Fyi I have a younger brother who has way more freedom and has no curfew. Stays out the till sunrise. And I'm pissed.
While I am a male I do know
Submitted by Anonymous on Sun, 2014-12-07 - 13:02
While I am a male I do know what it is like having a curfue and rules to follow. Those rules weren't just family they were school and everywhere else. While I was younger then my brother I questioned why he got to do thngs I didn't. Why I had to do things he didn't when he was my age. I asked for a family meeting so everybody to talk about the things they thought needed to be changed. Pete (step father) didn't like the idea but Mom said he needed to be there so he could give us his input. In that meeting we all learned why certain things were done. They also listened to my concerns. Mom and Pete had Larry doing more around the house and I got a little more freedom As for your having to give them information on where you go and when you will get home. That was normal. But back then you had no cell phones. If I was late I had to have a reason. I was asked for the ime I would be home. Knowing I never made it home on time I always extended the time by 1-2 hours so Mom wouldn't get worried. Mom and Larry knew I could do anythingI wanted to since I was a normal kid. What most people is epilepsy is more common then Parkinsons, ALHZand strokes combined. One in 25 people with have a seizure disorder at some point in their lives. Relaxe some because if you are under their roof they do have rules. If they pay the bills they are the ones that we need to look up to. I had to have my hair a certain length as long as Pete paid for the haircut. Once I started paying for it he would say it was too long. I looked at him and said as long as I am paying for the hair cut I will get the cut I wanted. That started when I was a senior in highschool 2 years later my hair was shoulder length. Yup I was a hippy I do hope this helps and they ease up on you. But I also know that parents want what is best for their kids bethey 22 or 12. I hope this helps Joe