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death of my son
Fri, 11/16/2007 - 11:48My son and probably best friend passed away November 8th between 6 and 8 pm. He was 21 years old. I am sorry that I never felt more compassion toward other parents that lost children. There is no pain that is so deep and sense of loss so complete. The best is that he probably did not suffer. Devin has had Epilepsy most of his life and seizures were a part of it. He had several seizures over the years and we just made sure he didn’t get hurt until the seizure was over. This time, I was not there to help him. Devin fell off the bed and was positioned in such a way that he could not breath and suffocated. When I discovered him I placed him on the floor and tried CPR for about 15 minutes until help arrived. I new there was no hope but the emergency personal persisted even after I couldn’t any longer. For this I am ever grateful.
After receiving the death certificate, I noticed that it listed cause of death as natural. It also listed that he died in bed. This is not true and we felt we should go to the county medical examiner and see if this could be corrected. We were told he was in and to come over. When we arrived, his assistant met us and told us she would speak for him. She provided the inaccurate report and stated that was what they were told. I stated that I alone discovered him and no one has discussed it with me. She restated the same thing and then stated that because he was an organ donor they didn’t have his eyes’ or much of anything else to work with. When I became upset, she told me not to blame her, she didn’t kill him. I had to leave and hope to never see her again. My wife is much stronger than I and did make an appointment the next day with the examiner. He told her again that the seizure killed him, that we were welcome to get other opinions, or even hire a lawyer and spend lots of money, if desired. I am no longer angry at the lady or the doctor. I just wanted the truth on the document. I alone found him and none of them took the time to ask me anything. I realize Devin is just another partial corpse to them, but he was a better person than many. I hope to be as good and forgiving as he was someday. He had many friends and relatives and I wish to express my gratitude to all of you for your support during this time. Greg Moore , Apison Tn
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Greg, I can say that my
Submitted by mynomi on Sun, 2008-01-06 - 14:05
Greg,
I can say that my family does know how you feel and our prayers go out to you. My brother passed away 4 years ago. He was 36 years old and perfectly healthy, other than the seizures he had periodically. He was on Dilantin for years which pretty much controlled them. He died while getting ready to take a shower to go out for the evening with his girlfriend. She found him about 30 minutes after he went into the bathroom. He did not have a seizure before death per the medical examiner. We were so upset after waiting for 8 weeks for the results of his autopsy to come back and the cause of death was seizure disorder.. A healthy 36 year old does not die of natural causes. I contacted the medical examiner and he said that the only other thing that they could put on it would be seizure disorder because people of his age do not die from natural causes. Even though he had not had a seizure in the 2 years before his death they ruled it seizure diorder. This left my mother with lots of greif and questions. I didn't know how common this was until i started searching the net.
Again Sorry for your loss and know that you are not alone in your greif.
Donna
Greg,
I can say that my family does know how you feel and our prayers go out to you. My brother passed away 4 years ago. He was 36 years old and perfectly healthy, other than the seizures he had periodically. He was on Dilantin for years which pretty much controlled them. He died while getting ready to take a shower to go out for the evening with his girlfriend. She found him about 30 minutes after he went into the bathroom. He did not have a seizure before death per the medical examiner. We were so upset after waiting for 8 weeks for the results of his autopsy to come back and the cause of death was seizure disorder.. A healthy 36 year old does not die of natural causes. I contacted the medical examiner and he said that the only other thing that they could put on it would be seizure disorder because people of his age do not die from natural causes. Even though he had not had a seizure in the 2 years before his death they ruled it seizure diorder. This left my mother with lots of greif and questions. I didn't know how common this was until i started searching the net.
Again Sorry for your loss and know that you are not alone in your greif.
Donna
loss of your son and best friend
Submitted by KrayonsRmine on Sat, 2007-11-17 - 20:11
Greg, My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your wife thru this difficult time. This has to be so hard for both of you. Please stay strong. Know that Devin is watching down on you both now and is proud of you for what you tried to do. *hugs* to you and your wife. Karen