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My husband's boss is trying to make him quit

Wed, 03/07/2007 - 13:39
After beating prostate cancer and switching meds & all that goes with that, my husband was able to return to his job of over 20 years. Now his boss is making his life at work so stressful that he nearly seized last nite and is jerky today. She is constantly undercutting his work, making up stupid lists w/priorties and then giving him other work to do so he can't get the lists done or even his actual job. We think she is trying to force him to quit, but he can't - we are so deep in the hole from all the other stuff, and he's 50 years old, it's not like he can just bounce out there and pick up on any old job-he knows construction, was a tiler in his younger days, but thats work for a younger guy. She has him so paranoid, he can't talk to anyone about how she treats him on the threat of dismissal. Does anyone know of anything we can do to stop her. I'm sure it's because of his epilepsy, he's started having seizures again after none for about 13 yrs, 2 at work. They pay his health insurance and I think they want to get out of that as well. Any suggestions would really help, we are at our wits end, and every seizure (gran mal) he has takes more of him away from me, & I don't know how many more he can take, it's taking longer & longer for him to come back.

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Re: My husband's boss is trying to make him quit

Submitted by stu on Wed, 2007-03-07 - 17:09
Honestly, I would start keeping records of how she treats him every day. Your employer also cannot prevent you from talking to other employees, there are specific rights that you are protected by. Has your husband specifically approached her and let her know that he feels he's being treated differently? If it gets too bad, I would talk with an Employment Lawyer.

Re: Re: My husband's boss is trying to make him quit

Submitted by keepncool on Tue, 2007-07-31 - 02:59
My boss is doing the exact same thing, so you're not alone. Keep the chin up because you are worth more than she'll ever be and I firmly believe it will come back to haunt them. My boss has been trying to get me to quit since 7/3 and every day gets worse, we don't even talk to each other anymore. I'm belittled, put down, told I shouldn't say hello to people in the hall, and I have one heck of a list but I don't know who to go to. I was even told I should put a yellow flag on my computer to waive when I'm having a seizure, I'm not going to win and it's time to move on again. When I first started the job he didn't say they used to joke by throwing tennis balls at each other. My second day on the job he hit me in the back of the head with a tennis ball, he didn't realize his strength. I "unloaded" on him telling him not to ever do that again because I have seizures. I didn't want him to know about them, but the cat was out of the bag. I can't seem to keep a job for more than 2-3 years and my seizures are pretty much under control until STRESS hits. I was at my last job for almost three years and the gal sitting next to me noticed my seizure. She went directly to the Office Manager and the next day I was told I "no longer fit with the company". I ended up in the Emergency room with chest pains last week and they say it's all from stress. How do we get social security disability? I got a letter in today's mail where the company insurance requested generic drugs be given from the doctor and he ok'd it. The generics give me seizures. Another battle to fight. I'm old and tired. So sorry I got off on a tangent. Best of luck to you guys.

Hey, No need to apologize at

Submitted by kathyc on Tue, 2007-07-31 - 12:20
Hey, No need to apologize at all. I certainly understand your stress and you need to release it somewhere!! I am sorry you are being treated so awful, it isn't fair at all. I don't think they can tell you not say hello to people in the hall, altho that is what my husband's boss was attempting, to alienate him from the other people, but it has backfired in that now more people are making an effort to talk with him. Of course it has taken nearly 8 months for them to get a clue! As far as the tennis balls, what level of maturity are we talking here? Sounds like you may be the only mature one there! My husband also is doing well, unless as you say, the stress hits. I'm sorry to hear of the chest pains, I have experienced that myself and it is scary. There are laws preventing them from firing you because you have seizures. As it seems you are working at a desk and aren't in a situation that a seizure would endanger you or others, they are way out of line, as long as you are able to perform your job. Put a yellow flag up? Hmm. Check here on the site, I believe it's under Resources, regarding your rights. You don't want to get on disability if you don't need to, it isn't much, we did have to do that while my husband was changing meds.and it wasn't easy to live on at all. Please take up the generic change with your doctor as soon as possible, our insurance tried that too, and he had a sz after only one dose of the generic. Your doctor should be aware of this... Try to take it one day at a time, and take care of yourself...feel free to rant anytime. Good luck, Kathy

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