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Sexual Side Effects

Wed, 03/29/2006 - 14:24
Why do you suppose that more neurologists and epileptoloists do not mention that a majority of anti-seizure pills do often make "normal" sexual performance for men difficult--if not sometimes impossible when it comes to erections? The first answer will pop up. And that is, even better-informed male patients will say "...to hell with my pills" and choose to live their sexual life "normally". Mind you, that last word I put in quotes, for who anyway should define "normal"? However, after having tried about as many anti-seizure drugs as the number of years I've had epilepsy (that's 35), I can speak as something of a lab rat. Many pills do affect a man's bedroom performance. And while this shouldn't become our reason for living, it is part of being a human, whether single, married or just evaluating our private parts. As society's attitude toward we handsome, educated humans with epilepsy matures, so does its understanding of "performance" when it comes to sex. Mind you, an honest woman will explain when love-making isn't just the thing for her; that does occur. My point is that this topic shouldn't remain in the proverbial "closet" any longer. Let's talk about it on this fine site, as well as face-to-face. Studies reveal how many men live virtually their entire lives feeling guilty for not performing sexually 24-hours a day, where in fact, there's most likely not one who ever has, other than in movies. And that includes this writer!

Comments

Re: Re: Re: Sexual Side Effects

Submitted by Dalmatian on Sun, 2007-07-01 - 01:11
That's an awful thing for her to say. I'm a newly married woman and my husband was not pleased to find that my new seizure meds elimitated my desire for sex. A different problem than yours, I realize, but still equally valid. I am no longer on that medication but I still hear about what an awful a wife I am for not wanting my husband more often. It's frustrating and unfair. I can't help this.

Re: Re: Re: Re: Sexual Side Effects

Submitted by musiclady on Sun, 2007-07-08 - 02:09
You should be ashamed of yourself! Newly married or married for over 50 years, if your husband cares more about sexual pleasures than your health I feel sorry for you! I've had epilepsy for 45 years and the most important, caring, loving thing ever said to me was when he asked, "Now is there anything I need to know so you don't have a seizure?" Don't you remember your wedding vows - In sickness OR in health. Take the medication that controls the seizures. That's priority.

Re: Re: Sexual Side Effects

Submitted by woodycoggin on Tue, 2006-09-05 - 20:31
I have had the problem with maintaining an erection as well. My wife and I bought a ring at a toy store. If you put it on while erect, it does a pretty good job of helping keep it. If nothing else, it is like a security blanket. See, if you worry about it, you generate the hormones that kill the thing. Try the clamp, as we call it. We even have a ritual for putting it on. My wife pulls it through and then does something else that I will leave to your imagination. These things are actually called cock rings but they do certainly seem to help. I also take an OTC called Viper that I get at Vitamin World and Saw Palmetto to help with going to the bathroom so often at night. My urologist put me on L-Arginine, Vitamin E, and Saw Palmetto. I heard about Viper and tried it and it seems to be pretty good. However, if you still can't get an erection, do what Jack says. When I can't get one at all, I have found a mental orgasm and the kick of satisfying my wife to be very, very fulfilling.

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