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Need help very badly, please!

Mon, 10/07/2013 - 17:47
Let me start by saying that neither I, nor my husband have epilepsy. neither of us had ever had a seizure before 2days ago, so I apologize if I am posting in the wrong place, but I need help. 2 days ago, my husband had a bad reaction to the prescription drug, tramadol. he had a tonic-clonic seizure right next to me in our bed while we were watching tv. it was absolutely the most terrifying thing I've ever seen in my entire life. I can't still hear the noises he made. the images of his body seizing and his eyes rolling in the back of his head will not leave my mind. Within 20 minutes after having the seizure, he was 100% back to normal, besides being a little stunned by what I explained to him had happened. and since then, he's been totally fine, back to normal. no headaches. no cloudy, fatigued feeling. no muscle aches. nothing! but I have been a hot mess to say the least. I'm driving him crazy because I've been following him around like a puppy dog, afraid to ever leave him alone because I'm scared that he'll have another one when he's standing and I want to catch him if he does. I even made him let me stay in the bathroom while he took a shower last night. he doesn't understand what I witnessed, because he doesn't remember it. I'm constantly crying. I can't eat. I can't sleep. I constantly feel like I'm on the verge of a panic attack. I feel incredibly paranoid, not just about his seizure but about everything. I just have General, intense feeling of impending doom. I don't know how to get over this. he's no longer taking the tramadol, so intellectually I know that he's not gonna have another one, but that isn't stopping me from feeling this way. Will I ever be ok? will I ever recover? will I ever be normal and carefree again? I don't know how long I can live like this, in constant fear and panic. I just feel so lost. does anybody have any advice as to how I can pull myself out of this? or at least any encouragement that is will subside eventually?? I'm desperate...

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Re: Need help very badly, please!

Submitted by just_joe on Wed, 2013-10-09 - 09:53

Seizures are different with each person that has them some get head aches others are really tired. Most of my convulsive seizures I was fully awake and I could see hear and understand what was going on. At school I was geberally taken to the nurses office and she watched me for a pariod of time. We even sat and talked. But yes many people can go thru seizures and come out of them and we are back without any problems. As for the bitingof ones tongue what many have found out is that when falling your body hitting the ground causes your head to jar and when that happens watch out cause your tongue between you teeth and the teeth slamming shut during tha fall is what causes the bite. I was normal within that time frame.

Like I said I have seizures that look like grande mal which the person losses conciousness. My focal motor seizures can and have been just as bad as a grande mall but in mine I see hear and understand what is going on and yes I have seen the fear and worry on peoples faces. I have even heard friends say UWWWWWWWWWWW I don' want to be around him anymore. So yes I have no problems once I have recovered from the seizure and back to normal I could do my school work or any chores I had to do. They were tiring but I had things to do and people to see. Understand too that I started having seizures over 50 years ago.

You and your husband will get your lives back it may take a little time for you but you will get back to doing what you did. I know that because most of my family members did.

Now I do want to get some coffee you should get some too or a cup of tea. Dependiing on the time a nice glass of iced tea with a lemon twist in it is always good. Down here in Texas we do like our tea sweet too.

Seizures are different with each person that has them some get head aches others are really tired. Most of my convulsive seizures I was fully awake and I could see hear and understand what was going on. At school I was geberally taken to the nurses office and she watched me for a pariod of time. We even sat and talked. But yes many people can go thru seizures and come out of them and we are back without any problems. As for the bitingof ones tongue what many have found out is that when falling your body hitting the ground causes your head to jar and when that happens watch out cause your tongue between you teeth and the teeth slamming shut during tha fall is what causes the bite. I was normal within that time frame.

Like I said I have seizures that look like grande mal which the person losses conciousness. My focal motor seizures can and have been just as bad as a grande mall but in mine I see hear and understand what is going on and yes I have seen the fear and worry on peoples faces. I have even heard friends say UWWWWWWWWWWW I don' want to be around him anymore. So yes I have no problems once I have recovered from the seizure and back to normal I could do my school work or any chores I had to do. They were tiring but I had things to do and people to see. Understand too that I started having seizures over 50 years ago.

You and your husband will get your lives back it may take a little time for you but you will get back to doing what you did. I know that because most of my family members did.

Now I do want to get some coffee you should get some too or a cup of tea. Dependiing on the time a nice glass of iced tea with a lemon twist in it is always good. Down here in Texas we do like our tea sweet too.

Re: Need help very badly, please!

Submitted by wellsmegan on Wed, 2013-10-09 - 10:13
Thank you very much for your response. My husband did not fall. He was in bed next to me when it started. He started to fall off of the bed but I was able to grab him and pull him on top of me and get him on his side. I'm not sure at what point he bit his tongue, but it was not cause by a fall. I really appreciate your post, it gave me a lot of hope that things will go back to normal in the foreseeable future. We are in California right now, but are awaiting a relocation in the next couple months to Conroe, TX. My husband grew up in Denison and Ft. Worth up until he was 28 years old and we are very much looking forward to getting there and getting out of CA. Again, thank you very much for your information and kind words. I appreciate them very much and wish you all the best :)

Re: Need help very badly, please!

Submitted by just_joe on Wed, 2013-10-09 - 16:31

Conroe is nice I lived in Bay City for a while.

I have family out in Ca. Mom's in San Diego alnog with one brother. Another brother in in Ramona. We also have another brother up in Sabastapol(spelling amy be off). I lived in Edgemont when I was diagnosed with epilepsy. I went to Moreno Valley High School. I know that Edgemont, Sunneymead and another little community merged and created Moreno Valley but that was years after I left. I have heard that the M is still on the mountain which I am happy about considering it was my class that put it up there, Things are deffinately different now Denison and Ft Worth are not bad but he will deffinately have to get used to traffic and the highways are different now.

It was a pleasure and I come on here to help people. Yours was different but I do know what it is like from both sides. Like I said I have seen what people go thru when they see me in a convulsive seizure, I have also helped people in them.

If yall are in the wine country or like wines from there we have several wineries here in Texas and the wine I get and use for drining and cooking is LLano which is right outside of Lubbock. Their wines have been up against Ca and NY wines in contests and yes Llano ahs won many blue ribbons.

Take care and go xreate a good and drink a glass of wine then for a movie you both like kick back watch the movie. Pop some pop corn

Joe

Conroe is nice I lived in Bay City for a while.

I have family out in Ca. Mom's in San Diego alnog with one brother. Another brother in in Ramona. We also have another brother up in Sabastapol(spelling amy be off). I lived in Edgemont when I was diagnosed with epilepsy. I went to Moreno Valley High School. I know that Edgemont, Sunneymead and another little community merged and created Moreno Valley but that was years after I left. I have heard that the M is still on the mountain which I am happy about considering it was my class that put it up there, Things are deffinately different now Denison and Ft Worth are not bad but he will deffinately have to get used to traffic and the highways are different now.

It was a pleasure and I come on here to help people. Yours was different but I do know what it is like from both sides. Like I said I have seen what people go thru when they see me in a convulsive seizure, I have also helped people in them.

If yall are in the wine country or like wines from there we have several wineries here in Texas and the wine I get and use for drining and cooking is LLano which is right outside of Lubbock. Their wines have been up against Ca and NY wines in contests and yes Llano ahs won many blue ribbons.

Take care and go xreate a good and drink a glass of wine then for a movie you both like kick back watch the movie. Pop some pop corn

Joe

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