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Need help very badly, please!

Mon, 10/07/2013 - 17:47
Let me start by saying that neither I, nor my husband have epilepsy. neither of us had ever had a seizure before 2days ago, so I apologize if I am posting in the wrong place, but I need help. 2 days ago, my husband had a bad reaction to the prescription drug, tramadol. he had a tonic-clonic seizure right next to me in our bed while we were watching tv. it was absolutely the most terrifying thing I've ever seen in my entire life. I can't still hear the noises he made. the images of his body seizing and his eyes rolling in the back of his head will not leave my mind. Within 20 minutes after having the seizure, he was 100% back to normal, besides being a little stunned by what I explained to him had happened. and since then, he's been totally fine, back to normal. no headaches. no cloudy, fatigued feeling. no muscle aches. nothing! but I have been a hot mess to say the least. I'm driving him crazy because I've been following him around like a puppy dog, afraid to ever leave him alone because I'm scared that he'll have another one when he's standing and I want to catch him if he does. I even made him let me stay in the bathroom while he took a shower last night. he doesn't understand what I witnessed, because he doesn't remember it. I'm constantly crying. I can't eat. I can't sleep. I constantly feel like I'm on the verge of a panic attack. I feel incredibly paranoid, not just about his seizure but about everything. I just have General, intense feeling of impending doom. I don't know how to get over this. he's no longer taking the tramadol, so intellectually I know that he's not gonna have another one, but that isn't stopping me from feeling this way. Will I ever be ok? will I ever recover? will I ever be normal and carefree again? I don't know how long I can live like this, in constant fear and panic. I just feel so lost. does anybody have any advice as to how I can pull myself out of this? or at least any encouragement that is will subside eventually?? I'm desperate...

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Re: Need help very badly, please!

Submitted by just_joe on Mon, 2013-10-07 - 21:50

Evening

I understand what happened to your husband. I also understand that uou are really stressed out because you seem to think he might have another seizure even though he isn'r going to use that medication again.

Now understand that many of  us know what it is like to have saizures and that some are ugly. No what you need to do is relaxe and be thankful that he doesn't have seizures like some of us do. . Understand that there are meny different types of seizures.

If you do a little research you would find that many different things can and do cause seizures. Over the counter medicines for one. People with diabeties can also have seizures. Their sugar level can do it. I have a friend that has seizures from time to time but his are less than the tonic clonic but his can also be cause by his heart medication.

intellectually I know that he's not gonna have another one. Then use a little common sense and relax kick back and watch a few movies eat some popcorn or go cook a great mean. He is the lucky one because he knows what happened. He may not know what his seizure looked like but then there are places he can go to and see what you saw.

Again relax. You are being stressed over something that happened that may nevere happen again.

You are over reacting because of what your saw. I don't want to be harsh in any way but calm down and get over his seizure be thankful that neither of you has epilepsy. Many people in here on this site have seizures of all kinds and we would love to be without seizures of any kind. What you witnessed when you saw your husband I had 4-5 times a month. That was not counting the other seizures I had. I am greatful for the seizures I have today compared to the ones I had years ago. 

What you witnessed many people in here have on a regular basis. Now you might see why some of us want to get other people to understand what we have been going thru. We do have walks to raise money like they do for breast cancer and heart disease. But we never have gotten the people that those two get. We have the color purple which is to be worn on the 26th of this month. Do you think people will be wearing purple??? Why is it stores push for breast cancer but not epilepsy? Understand that there are probably more people with epiepsy than have breast cancer. You probably do not know but even in the 1960's people with epilepsy were still being put in homes away from the public. Some states were not giving marriage liscenses to people with epilepsy in the 1970's. We have come a long ways and technology has helped.

So relax have a good meal and a gew glasses of a good wine. I say that because you are actually stressing yourself out and that doesn't help him.

Evening

I understand what happened to your husband. I also understand that uou are really stressed out because you seem to think he might have another seizure even though he isn'r going to use that medication again.

Now understand that many of  us know what it is like to have saizures and that some are ugly. No what you need to do is relaxe and be thankful that he doesn't have seizures like some of us do. . Understand that there are meny different types of seizures.

If you do a little research you would find that many different things can and do cause seizures. Over the counter medicines for one. People with diabeties can also have seizures. Their sugar level can do it. I have a friend that has seizures from time to time but his are less than the tonic clonic but his can also be cause by his heart medication.

intellectually I know that he's not gonna have another one. Then use a little common sense and relax kick back and watch a few movies eat some popcorn or go cook a great mean. He is the lucky one because he knows what happened. He may not know what his seizure looked like but then there are places he can go to and see what you saw.

Again relax. You are being stressed over something that happened that may nevere happen again.

You are over reacting because of what your saw. I don't want to be harsh in any way but calm down and get over his seizure be thankful that neither of you has epilepsy. Many people in here on this site have seizures of all kinds and we would love to be without seizures of any kind. What you witnessed when you saw your husband I had 4-5 times a month. That was not counting the other seizures I had. I am greatful for the seizures I have today compared to the ones I had years ago. 

What you witnessed many people in here have on a regular basis. Now you might see why some of us want to get other people to understand what we have been going thru. We do have walks to raise money like they do for breast cancer and heart disease. But we never have gotten the people that those two get. We have the color purple which is to be worn on the 26th of this month. Do you think people will be wearing purple??? Why is it stores push for breast cancer but not epilepsy? Understand that there are probably more people with epiepsy than have breast cancer. You probably do not know but even in the 1960's people with epilepsy were still being put in homes away from the public. Some states were not giving marriage liscenses to people with epilepsy in the 1970's. We have come a long ways and technology has helped.

So relax have a good meal and a gew glasses of a good wine. I say that because you are actually stressing yourself out and that doesn't help him.

Re: Need help very badly, please!

Submitted by mereloaded on Tue, 2013-10-08 - 15:56
Thank you Joe for your comment. I will be wearing purple on the 26! And I will run in D.C. next year, I believe the walk is in April. You are right, epilepsy doesn't get the support that it should. Luckily, there has been more and more awareness and less shame lately, perhaps due to celebrities and politicians having them this year. It had definitely put the talk out there instead of hiding it.

Re: Need help very badly, please!

Submitted by just_joe on Wed, 2013-10-09 - 16:40

Cool I will be watching. As for the walk they are in different towns on different days. I will be contacting My sister in law and asking her if they will be sponsers since they do back Breast cancer alot My neices run marathons.

You might have heard  anout her She and My brother started "Walter Anderson Plumbing" and they were one of the largest plumbers in So Cal.

If you want to check and see if there is a walk near you go to the EFA and enter your zip code. I know we have one here in Dallas and there are walks in San Antonio and Lubbock but other towns may have them. I know before the EFA we had walks here because we had the DEA Dallas Epilepsy Association

Cool I will be watching. As for the walk they are in different towns on different days. I will be contacting My sister in law and asking her if they will be sponsers since they do back Breast cancer alot My neices run marathons.

You might have heard  anout her She and My brother started "Walter Anderson Plumbing" and they were one of the largest plumbers in So Cal.

If you want to check and see if there is a walk near you go to the EFA and enter your zip code. I know we have one here in Dallas and there are walks in San Antonio and Lubbock but other towns may have them. I know before the EFA we had walks here because we had the DEA Dallas Epilepsy Association

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