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Epilepsy and Relationships

Fri, 03/02/2012 - 02:31
No matter how hard I try I can't help but to feel distant. Somehow I always end up being disconnected. I've Made personal decisions as a person that really destroyed my reputation. There are few people who have a frustrated love for me. I get into moods where I just don't want to talk or everything an everyone just seem distant. My relationship with my family is rocky, one day it's blue skies the next it's a scene out of twister. I'm far more mature now then I used to be; I wouldn't talk about my epilepsy out of embarrassment and ignorance. I'm still very embarrassed but I will talk about it if asked. What I want to know is: How does epilepsy effect the relationships in your life? Do you get angry very easily ? Are your moods effected by epilepsy? Are you embarrassed to be the way you are?

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Re: Epilepsy and Relationships

Submitted by Lin22 on Sun, 2012-03-04 - 02:25

I cant seem to find a man who has enough strength to handle my epilepsy. I've come to the point that ive just about givin up on finding someone. My moods are affected a lot by my epilepsy. I can get depressed very easily and often am very silent, i guess you could say i meditate a lot. I can be the happiest person one day and the next feel like killing myself. I am scared to tell people about my problems because of a fear of being shuned. I'ts like i understand what your saying almost exactly...as if i were you.

I cant seem to find a man who has enough strength to handle my epilepsy. I've come to the point that ive just about givin up on finding someone. My moods are affected a lot by my epilepsy. I can get depressed very easily and often am very silent, i guess you could say i meditate a lot. I can be the happiest person one day and the next feel like killing myself. I am scared to tell people about my problems because of a fear of being shuned. I'ts like i understand what your saying almost exactly...as if i were you.

Re: Epilepsy and Relationships

Submitted by LostLostLost on Mon, 2012-03-12 - 04:01
I think there are guys out there for you and if you can share everything with them it would probably be a lot easier to relate. My wife stopped sharing with me how things were going. I think you have to face the fact that epilepsy does things to you and that the medication can change how you interact with loved ones. My wife refuses that to be the case. Hang in there at one point my wife said I was " a good man" on this website....so you will find one.

Re: Epilepsy and Relationships

Submitted by TIMON on Sun, 2012-03-04 - 11:11

I have recently moved out from my bf:s place. I moved abroad to live with him. I knew he had epilepsy but I had no idea about those mood swings. "Irritable" doesn't quite describe it. He's agressieve, treats me really badly, can be extremely selfish and unfair and his also very jealous. I blame it on his medication, but he won't even talk about it. I don't even recognize him some days.

If he had said something like what you have written here, I would have stayed, but he won't take any responsibility for any of the fights and there seem to be no way I can do anything right in his eyes. I have no energy to put in this relationship anymore. Now it feels like I need to let go because it is ruining me and nothing seems to ever improve. It is really very sad.

I have recently moved out from my bf:s place. I moved abroad to live with him. I knew he had epilepsy but I had no idea about those mood swings. "Irritable" doesn't quite describe it. He's agressieve, treats me really badly, can be extremely selfish and unfair and his also very jealous. I blame it on his medication, but he won't even talk about it. I don't even recognize him some days.

If he had said something like what you have written here, I would have stayed, but he won't take any responsibility for any of the fights and there seem to be no way I can do anything right in his eyes. I have no energy to put in this relationship anymore. Now it feels like I need to let go because it is ruining me and nothing seems to ever improve. It is really very sad.

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