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Sexual Side Effects

Wed, 03/29/2006 - 14:24
Why do you suppose that more neurologists and epileptoloists do not mention that a majority of anti-seizure pills do often make "normal" sexual performance for men difficult--if not sometimes impossible when it comes to erections? The first answer will pop up. And that is, even better-informed male patients will say "...to hell with my pills" and choose to live their sexual life "normally". Mind you, that last word I put in quotes, for who anyway should define "normal"? However, after having tried about as many anti-seizure drugs as the number of years I've had epilepsy (that's 35), I can speak as something of a lab rat. Many pills do affect a man's bedroom performance. And while this shouldn't become our reason for living, it is part of being a human, whether single, married or just evaluating our private parts. As society's attitude toward we handsome, educated humans with epilepsy matures, so does its understanding of "performance" when it comes to sex. Mind you, an honest woman will explain when love-making isn't just the thing for her; that does occur. My point is that this topic shouldn't remain in the proverbial "closet" any longer. Let's talk about it on this fine site, as well as face-to-face. Studies reveal how many men live virtually their entire lives feeling guilty for not performing sexually 24-hours a day, where in fact, there's most likely not one who ever has, other than in movies. And that includes this writer!

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Re: Sexual Side Effects

Submitted by MOONLIGHT on Wed, 2009-02-18 - 15:00

Hi guys

              I've had E for 33 years now in my 20's I was fine I'm 49 now when the dr. started adding more med's there went my sex drive I've been married now for 17 years and we have had sex about 4 time's I'm on tegetol 200mg 3 times a day neurontin 400mg 2 times a day limictal 275mg 2 times a day and keppa 250mg 2 times a day I have complex partial seizures and alot of aura's I would like my sex drive back but I don't know if I can          Take care Guys

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Hi guys

              I've had E for 33 years now in my 20's I was fine I'm 49 now when the dr. started adding more med's there went my sex drive I've been married now for 17 years and we have had sex about 4 time's I'm on tegetol 200mg 3 times a day neurontin 400mg 2 times a day limictal 275mg 2 times a day and keppa 250mg 2 times a day I have complex partial seizures and alot of aura's I would like my sex drive back but I don't know if I can          Take care Guys

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Re: Sexual Side Effects

Submitted by Johnny Sonic on Mon, 2011-02-07 - 04:36

Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhh....my gooooosh!!! I'm friggin' OUTRAGGED!!!!If you only knew how many doctors I've talked to about this problem!

PROFILE

Age: 35
Last Episode: 5 yrs ago, controlled w/ 300mg Dilantin before bed.
R. Temporal lobe thing attached in there somewhere from birth (no change in size) 
Male (SINGLE ;) ) Interested in: FEMALES!!!!
Excellent Shape (Outdoor activity 5 days a week, multiple activities, So I work all muscle groups)
ABSOLUTELY NO DRUGS!! A few beers a week & Some Red Wine w/ date of the month 

Diet: Mainly Organic foods, ALL Food Groups!!! (Vegitarians look like they take to many AED's)
Daily Vitamins: Folic Acid, Vit. D, E, B Complex, Multi and lots of C.
Drink 10-15 glasses of water a day.
I NEVER GET SICK.

OK, Lets go through the women history. I've been close to marriage about 5 times, slept with over 50 women in my 17 years of my sexually active life. I know how my body works and how the female body works. I am always learning more by asking the girl friends and reading books. Sex is unreal, it's my #1 motivating factor in life, it always has been since the early days of Wheel of Fortune (You know what I mean). I will do anything within reason to get it. The women I choose are all of upper class variety, well groomed, have an education and are all extrovertive type.

That's the days of old!!! To the day, I can pinpoint my greatest downfall in life so far! The day I was dosed up with 1200 mg of DILANTIN!! This drug is has painfully broken 2 reasonably long term relationships. The first was my girl friend of 3 yrs, because of buddy not performing up to standards. Loss of erection during sex (Even got rid of the condoms), I can't feel hardly anything, the sensitivity is gone?? Then I get stressed, this compounds the problem. OK try again in few mins., up again (like 70%), no problem though, I'll just squeeze at the base and in we go (Once i'm in, I should be back in action right???) NOPE. She says, "you have to get off those meds". Dam, out of action!

Ladies, listen up! It's not about performing in the sack that breaks the realtionship. Its an array of problems in life that lead up to it. Sex is how you say, it's alright baby, I'm all yours, things will get better! If you can't perform at critical times, doubt begins to creep in her mind and festers there until the next problem arises. Relationships need this mechanism to smooth over those minor problems and keep the ball rolling. So please don't comment about how she should really love and care for you even without it. SHE DOES TO THIS DAY!!!

Next up! Maybe it's not the drugs, maybe it's a case of relationship burn out (ie: im not attracted to her anymore) I've been with the same person for 3 yrs., maybe I would like to experience a new person? OK no problem, I'll do a test (we are not together, of course!!)

I find my sexual dream girl (Yah, whatever, It's just a test!) I pre-plan my attack! Coffee shop barista (ex dancer) 26 yrs, 6'2", sexy glasses, librarian type, perfectly manicured everyday! She knows nothing about me, I know just what she looks like and what she does! It's true LUST at first sight! Willy goes up, all is good, he works for now! I get a coffee and sit down. The dramatic stares continue and she says she's off in half an hour!
Hop in the truck, down to her place 2 hrs. of foreplay and into the bed. No c-dome, ahhh I want children anyways, friggin' dilantin and that memory loss, so much for pre-planning- shes perfect right? Willy is up a bit, down, but never at 110%!! Dam, what is going on? Come on, I'm super relaxed, with my dream and nothing! She says "all the guys i'm with always get to nervous around me and can't perform at first, it ok baby we will try later". Come on, i'm the most confident guy in situation like this, im always in control. Somethings wrong!! "maybe you should get some blue pills, they work great she says." ohhhhh...ummm, maybe Its a good thing willy's not going up, I'll be bringing the domes next time.

Off to the doc. What's up doc? here's her picture in a bikini! He glance at it in amazement and then gives me a blank face stare (Like I don't know what is going on in his mind right now, were all human right). He says " the book says nothing about sexual side effects, and I have had no other complaints." ummm. ok doc. When did they do the tests? in the 50's when sex was outlawed, in the 60's when there were no problems with sex in society because everyone was high? or in the 70's when monkeys were the primary testing source?

TIP FOR ALL GUYS: Morning Hard ON'S are a sign of your overall health. All of us should be 110% when we wake up! Im not!!! Im sitting around 70% unless I do massive cardio the day before, even then 50/50. 

I try and try again with the sexy barista, sometime with moderate success other times nothing. Then I started to practice at home a little more and the same response (xxx movies and all). Then I completely cut out masterbation hoping that would increase sensitivity, bahh, forget it!!

I go to another doc., same response as before. Guess you guys don't do very much research, huh? Case study right here! Hello? Send me down to the University Campus (haha)

Dillema time: New date this week.. What to do? Stop taking Dilantin? Blue pill? Claim religous beliefs? Or go all in with my pokka face? I'm going GAGA! I'll let you all know how it goes. Only taking 2 pills tonight.

DILANTIN = Single and Stupid.

LOL: As I'm writing this, the guy in the appartment upstairs is ontop of his wife. (He's in his 60's and looks like Santa with rosacea)

This is terrible, just as bad as loosing your drivers license (70% of us still drive without though), loosing your career, loosing your marriage or long term relationship and loosing respect for the doctors who care for us.

Give me some real feed back! I want facts! I want the truth! and I want a real women!

Here's a little tip for all: Tell no one about your problem even yourself and you might not have a problem!
GET HEALTHY EVERYONE - READ BOOKS and be CRITICAL THINKERS not assumption makers!!!!

 

To the webmaster: You should not edit this document and allow freeflowing thoughts to occur on this page. Perhaps a little fun will generate some interest publicly and we might all learn a little more.

Cool Beans....

Johnny!!



 

 

Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhh....my gooooosh!!! I'm friggin' OUTRAGGED!!!!If you only knew how many doctors I've talked to about this problem!

PROFILE

Age: 35
Last Episode: 5 yrs ago, controlled w/ 300mg Dilantin before bed.
R. Temporal lobe thing attached in there somewhere from birth (no change in size) 
Male (SINGLE ;) ) Interested in: FEMALES!!!!
Excellent Shape (Outdoor activity 5 days a week, multiple activities, So I work all muscle groups)
ABSOLUTELY NO DRUGS!! A few beers a week & Some Red Wine w/ date of the month 

Diet: Mainly Organic foods, ALL Food Groups!!! (Vegitarians look like they take to many AED's)
Daily Vitamins: Folic Acid, Vit. D, E, B Complex, Multi and lots of C.
Drink 10-15 glasses of water a day.
I NEVER GET SICK.

OK, Lets go through the women history. I've been close to marriage about 5 times, slept with over 50 women in my 17 years of my sexually active life. I know how my body works and how the female body works. I am always learning more by asking the girl friends and reading books. Sex is unreal, it's my #1 motivating factor in life, it always has been since the early days of Wheel of Fortune (You know what I mean). I will do anything within reason to get it. The women I choose are all of upper class variety, well groomed, have an education and are all extrovertive type.

That's the days of old!!! To the day, I can pinpoint my greatest downfall in life so far! The day I was dosed up with 1200 mg of DILANTIN!! This drug is has painfully broken 2 reasonably long term relationships. The first was my girl friend of 3 yrs, because of buddy not performing up to standards. Loss of erection during sex (Even got rid of the condoms), I can't feel hardly anything, the sensitivity is gone?? Then I get stressed, this compounds the problem. OK try again in few mins., up again (like 70%), no problem though, I'll just squeeze at the base and in we go (Once i'm in, I should be back in action right???) NOPE. She says, "you have to get off those meds". Dam, out of action!

Ladies, listen up! It's not about performing in the sack that breaks the realtionship. Its an array of problems in life that lead up to it. Sex is how you say, it's alright baby, I'm all yours, things will get better! If you can't perform at critical times, doubt begins to creep in her mind and festers there until the next problem arises. Relationships need this mechanism to smooth over those minor problems and keep the ball rolling. So please don't comment about how she should really love and care for you even without it. SHE DOES TO THIS DAY!!!

Next up! Maybe it's not the drugs, maybe it's a case of relationship burn out (ie: im not attracted to her anymore) I've been with the same person for 3 yrs., maybe I would like to experience a new person? OK no problem, I'll do a test (we are not together, of course!!)

I find my sexual dream girl (Yah, whatever, It's just a test!) I pre-plan my attack! Coffee shop barista (ex dancer) 26 yrs, 6'2", sexy glasses, librarian type, perfectly manicured everyday! She knows nothing about me, I know just what she looks like and what she does! It's true LUST at first sight! Willy goes up, all is good, he works for now! I get a coffee and sit down. The dramatic stares continue and she says she's off in half an hour!
Hop in the truck, down to her place 2 hrs. of foreplay and into the bed. No c-dome, ahhh I want children anyways, friggin' dilantin and that memory loss, so much for pre-planning- shes perfect right? Willy is up a bit, down, but never at 110%!! Dam, what is going on? Come on, I'm super relaxed, with my dream and nothing! She says "all the guys i'm with always get to nervous around me and can't perform at first, it ok baby we will try later". Come on, i'm the most confident guy in situation like this, im always in control. Somethings wrong!! "maybe you should get some blue pills, they work great she says." ohhhhh...ummm, maybe Its a good thing willy's not going up, I'll be bringing the domes next time.

Off to the doc. What's up doc? here's her picture in a bikini! He glance at it in amazement and then gives me a blank face stare (Like I don't know what is going on in his mind right now, were all human right). He says " the book says nothing about sexual side effects, and I have had no other complaints." ummm. ok doc. When did they do the tests? in the 50's when sex was outlawed, in the 60's when there were no problems with sex in society because everyone was high? or in the 70's when monkeys were the primary testing source?

TIP FOR ALL GUYS: Morning Hard ON'S are a sign of your overall health. All of us should be 110% when we wake up! Im not!!! Im sitting around 70% unless I do massive cardio the day before, even then 50/50. 

I try and try again with the sexy barista, sometime with moderate success other times nothing. Then I started to practice at home a little more and the same response (xxx movies and all). Then I completely cut out masterbation hoping that would increase sensitivity, bahh, forget it!!

I go to another doc., same response as before. Guess you guys don't do very much research, huh? Case study right here! Hello? Send me down to the University Campus (haha)

Dillema time: New date this week.. What to do? Stop taking Dilantin? Blue pill? Claim religous beliefs? Or go all in with my pokka face? I'm going GAGA! I'll let you all know how it goes. Only taking 2 pills tonight.

DILANTIN = Single and Stupid.

LOL: As I'm writing this, the guy in the appartment upstairs is ontop of his wife. (He's in his 60's and looks like Santa with rosacea)

This is terrible, just as bad as loosing your drivers license (70% of us still drive without though), loosing your career, loosing your marriage or long term relationship and loosing respect for the doctors who care for us.

Give me some real feed back! I want facts! I want the truth! and I want a real women!

Here's a little tip for all: Tell no one about your problem even yourself and you might not have a problem!
GET HEALTHY EVERYONE - READ BOOKS and be CRITICAL THINKERS not assumption makers!!!!

 

To the webmaster: You should not edit this document and allow freeflowing thoughts to occur on this page. Perhaps a little fun will generate some interest publicly and we might all learn a little more.

Cool Beans....

Johnny!!



 

 

Re: Sexual Side Effects

Submitted by clarissoul on Thu, 2011-04-21 - 15:09

Hi Johnny,

   Trust me, it's the meds. But you shouldn't go off of them, nor adjust your dosage. Your health is more important than macho status. I wrote on here (8/09) a post about how the med has affected my marriage and sex life. I feel for so many people dealing with the issue. It's awful. Especially when you don't know what's wrong, or are the one on the medication and fail to acknowledge that it is the case. The medicine causing behavioral/mood issues, and sexual issues. I truly wish my husband would "man up" and deal with it. It's costing us, and our family. I'm actually at the end of my rope and ready to move on. For so long I felt as if I was kicking him when he's down; but in truth, his "sickness" is making me unhealthy, and after 15 yrs. of marriage; it's me time. Good luck to ya.

Hi Johnny,

   Trust me, it's the meds. But you shouldn't go off of them, nor adjust your dosage. Your health is more important than macho status. I wrote on here (8/09) a post about how the med has affected my marriage and sex life. I feel for so many people dealing with the issue. It's awful. Especially when you don't know what's wrong, or are the one on the medication and fail to acknowledge that it is the case. The medicine causing behavioral/mood issues, and sexual issues. I truly wish my husband would "man up" and deal with it. It's costing us, and our family. I'm actually at the end of my rope and ready to move on. For so long I felt as if I was kicking him when he's down; but in truth, his "sickness" is making me unhealthy, and after 15 yrs. of marriage; it's me time. Good luck to ya.

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